“No Matter How Long the Night, the Day is Sure to Come.” African Proverb

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WE NEED MORE LOVE IN OUR COMMUNITIES.
The Goal of African American Matchmaking:  To Help You Find a Loving Relationship!

African American Matchmaking is a company that promotes Black Love:
Advice, Inspiration and Matchmaking Services

New Site for African American Matchmaking

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Making so much progress… we can’t stop! We listened to your needs and feedback as African American Matchmaking members and those concerned about the state of Black love. As a result, we have been working diligently on a new site that responds to YOU and your matchmaking desires. We have developed other aspects of the site to focus on making your matchmaking process as smooth and easy as possible.  After next week, blog posts to increase love awareness will be located here:  http://africanamericanmatchmaking/blog/. Current subscribers will continue to receive posts.

THIS IS BRAND NEW.  Receiving online matchmaking services is as easy as 1-2-3:

  1. Register.  Create an account and profile.  Once approved, you will receive an email with login information.
  2. Choose your membership level.  The most popular plan gives you 30 days of matchmaking services free.
  3. Activate your membership. That’s it!

You will then have access to the select group of African American Matchmaking members looking for the same thing you are looking for.  A unique matchmaking algorithm will provide match ratings for each potential match and I am there to guide your journey. In addition to other online groups that you can create and join as a member, I monitor your progress, make recommendations, and host a members-only forum where I respond to your most pressing concerns.  Technical support for the site is also available.

African American Matchmaking is private, selective, effective and empowering. Can you tell that I am excited? Great, let’s get started.

P.S.  If you have already submitted information to us, we will contact you regarding the status of your membership.

Warm Regards,
Angela D. Coleman
African American Matchmaker

One More Reason Why Sharing Body Fluids Requires Time & Trust

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When disease hits, it seems to hit people of African descent especially hard.  The recent Ebola health crisis spreading from West Africa is no exception.  From Guinea, Liberia, Sierra Leone, Senegal, and Nigeria to Spain, France, and Germany to the United States, Ebola is proof that what happens in the Motherland is relevant to us all.  In this case (and history can show us other cases), people of African descent are infected and die in larger numbers.

Viruses can be spread by bodily fluids, but some viruses like the flu, are airborne.  Bodily fluids include blood, urine, and saliva, but also include lymphatic fluid, semen, female ejaculate, breast milk, bile, amniotic fluid, bile, feces, sweat, tears, vomit, and the list goes on!

Disclaimer:  I am not a medical doctor nor do I claim to be one.  I am a matchmaker and I want us to be safe and healthy in pursuit of loving relationships with each other.

Just as you might screen a potential for sexually transmitted infections such as gonorrhea, chlamydia, syphilis, herpes, and HIV/AIDS, the U.S. government is struggling to create legal, non-offensive methods to screen for current health concerns like Ebola.   What we thought was safe before is now questionable behavior.  If you are single and dating new people, you need to think about this, too.

People don’t always show outward signs of disease and even if they do, you might miss it or mistake it for something else.  In addition: 1) they often lie about an infection, 2) they do not realize that they have an infection, 3) they know they are infected but don’t think that they are contagious,  4) they are in denial about their medical condition, or 5) they just don’t care.

Despite community-based prevention efforts, African American women continue to be the group most infected by HIV/AIDS.  Did you know that, according to the Centers for Disease Control (CDC), one out of every six people aged 14 to 49 years has genital herpes?  FYI: there is no cure for HIVAIDS or herpes.

Health workers often talk about physical protection, for example, condoms, protective gear, etc. But we know that harm reduction techniques can fail, and sometimes do. With new diseases, it can be trial and error with a deadly learning curve. What are we to do?

It is advisable to establish a foundation of trust before sharing in a physically intimate way.  This takes time.  This dating advice is not anything new.  However, in this era, time and trust is becoming not just a strategy to keep your standards high and protect some of your most precious assets; it can also be a matter sickness, quarantine, life and death.

Lovely Lingerie

Lingerie

“The sad truth is I can go weeks at a time without coming across
a nice photo of a woman of color in lingerie.”
Cora Harrington, a.k.a. Treacle Tart, cross-posted from The Lingerie Addict.

Most of us are stimulated when we see something that appeals to us.
African Americans wear lingerie, too!  Do you?

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Research Shows Black, White & Latino People Prefer Their Own Race

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According to the the 2013 American Values Survey (AVS) conducted by the Public Religion Research Institute:

  • Americans overall reported, on average, a social network of 3.4 people out of a maximum of seven people. Overall, people named in these networks are slightly more likely to be immediate family members (an average of 1.8 people) than non-immediate family members (an average of 1.5 people).
  • Among White Americans, 91 percent of people comprising their social networks are also White, while five percent are identified as some other race. Among Black Americans, 83 percent of people in their social networks are composed of people who are also Black, while eight percent are White and six percent are another race.
  • Among Hispanic Americans, 64 percent of the people who comprise their social networks are also Hispanic, 19 percent are White, and nine percent are another race.

 

 

For Many of Us, the First Step to Love is Healing

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Common responses to trauma include increased anxiety, emotional detachment, and addictive behaviors such as alcohol, drugs, sex, overeating, gambling, shopping, etc. Things that remind a person of a traumatic event can trigger avoidance symptoms. These symptoms may cause a person to change his or her personal routine. Have any of these behaviors replaced love in your life?

You don’t have to be trapped by your history. Human beings are amazingly resilient; we can heal ourselves. Healing is the restoration of health, soundness and spiritual wholeness. It is a reconciliation of the past and present for a brighter tomorrow.

The most effective way to heal is to do it together. The first step is to start with self-love—love the person you are. Healing with your family, friends, and/or significant others who are also conscious enough to be on a path toward collective recovery and love is also important and immensely helpful. Remember that you must first love yourself in order to be able to love others. Your healing begins on the inside; so, don’t be afraid to surround yourself with love on the outside.

We heal when we put love first. We heal when we prioritize ourselves. We heal when we master the art of LETTING GO of the past to honor the gifts of the present and move forward toward a wiser, more positive future.

Excerpt from Black Girls Guide:  How to Find & Choose the Right Man

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Dating Naked, Black & Afraid

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There is no dating justice for Justice in Dating Naked

I don’t watch a lot of shows on television, preferring independent films and Netflix binges to cable. However, the reality show Dating Naked, caught my attention.  Not just because it is yet another show featuring naked people, but because the concept of a potential couple meeting for the first time without clothing is intriguing to me as a matchmaker.

Nudity renders most people vulnerable , literally and figuratively open and stripped of masks and illusions. In theory, it could be the most authentic search for true love, free and fun times.  No pretenses, no hiding, no clothes.  This is where the show has the potential to shine.

In this “radical dating experiment,” it looks like there is some real matchmaking here. At least one of dates appear to be a real potential match that is consistent with what the other is looking for. This rarely happens coincidentally, but is the result of care, research, and good planning.  Interestingly, a nude wedding is scheduled to air this month featuring a couple that first met on the show.

Nudity is raw and for some, emotionally powerful.  One of the women on the show had such a hard time being naked that she eventually left the exotic island where the show is filmed.  Nudity and fear, it seems, go hand in hand. Others can’t seem to move past their lust by associating nudity with sexual availability.  These daters tend to be promiscuous!

The titillating nature of nudity is not lost on me.  As a dating show, I look for the show’s relevance for Black love. For African Americans, the show may as well be called Dating Naked, Black & Afraid because most people are generally uncomfortable being nude and even more uncomfortable being nude and matched with Black people for a date.  Understandably, they feel more at ease around each other.  African Americans often feel the same way.

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Typical line-up of daters with their clothed host on Dating Naked

Defying United States demographics and reality, the lack of diversity in both ethnicity and body type, is obvious.  Importantly, the inhabitants of this remote island are rendered even more invisible than Black people–I only saw two brothers and one sister featured on the show and we never see a local resident of the island on camera.

Like most dating and matchmaking shows, this one is clearly not created for the benefit of African Americans. Black people are rarely featured and when they are, they are treated like novelty items, “the first Black girl” and “first Black guy I’ve ever dated.”  White daters fail to “connect” with them, most likely because they are completely incompatible in other ways besides race.

Black daters are stereotyped:  a young Black man is described as “well-hung” and there were a variety of camera angles fixated on the behind of the only young Black woman dater I saw on the show. None of African American daters were picked to develop relationships at the end of the show, likely resulting in feelings of rejection and/or public humiliation for them.

Perhaps most importantly, unlike their White peers, Black people on Dating Naked are not coupled with each other! To my knowledge, no Black man and woman have been in the same show so that they can date.  This would easily resolve the show’s race problem  and make it more interesting.

In conclusion, Dating Naked is entertaining, but at best, woefully ignorant of the vast majority of people’s dating preferences to date within their own ethnic group; they give this option to White daters, but not to Black daters.  At worst, it is purposeful and deliberate sabotage of Black love in favor of another agenda.

Are You Attracted to Unavailable People?

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In The Ecstasy of Surrender: 12 Surprising Ways Letting Go Can Empower Your Life,  author Judith Orloff, M.D. devoted a chapter to letting go of any patterns that keep you from loving.  In her own words:

One of these patterns in being drawn to unavailable, commitment phobic people. It’s important to be very clear about what constitutes an unavailable person so you won’t be fooled by their charm or potential.

12 SIGNS YOU’RE ATTRACTED TO  

EMOTIONALLY UNAVAILABLE PEOPLE (EUP) 

Here are some red flags to watch for. Even one sign warns you to be careful. The more that are present, the more danger exists.

  • They are married or in a relationship with someone else

  • They can’t commit to you or have feared commitment in past relationships

  • They have one foot on the gas pedal, one foot on the break

  • They are emotionally distant, shut down, or can’t deal with conflict

  • They’re mainly interested in sex, not relating emotionally or spiritually

  • They are practicing alcoholics, sex addicts, or substance abusers

  • They prefer long distance relationships, emails, texting, or don’t introduce you to their friends and family

  • They are elusive, sneaky, frequently working or tired, and may disappear for periods

  • They are seductive with you but make empty promises–their behavior and words don’t match

  • They send mixed messages, flirt with others, or don’t give a straight answer–you’re always trying to “de-code” what they really mean

  • They’re narcissistic, only consider themselves, not your needs

  • They throw you emotional crumbs or enticing hints of their potential to be loving, then withdraw

    Does any of these sound familiar?

Take a Risk

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Good things come to those who risk, who step outside the norm and who allow themselves to be vulnerable.  Do something different to get a different outcome.  When nothing is ventured, nothing is gained.  Try it today!

Online Dater Bias Against Black Women

Sister Breaking OutStudies show Black women are the least desired group on online dating sites. HOW CAN THAT BE?

For those Black women who’ve tried their hand at finding love online, the results may not be all that surprising. But the racial breakdown of desirability is certainly intriguing.

Buzzfeed produced a video to explain the findings of the many studies on racial preferences in online dating:

Advice from African American Matchmaking: 
Break out from the the mold of expectations, assimilation, wanna-be behavior, doubt, and insecurity by being yourself.

Keep the faith and keep Black love alive by doing something different, not just online dating.

We know that Black women are desirable and have been for centuries.  Don’t allow dominant culture beauty standards confuse you with erroneous social comparisons and avoid over-reliance on technology when dating.

Know your worth and find a partner who does, too.

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Being Fabulous in Your 50’s

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In her new feature photo shoot for the beauty and fashion magazine Violet Grey, actress and director Angela Bassett goes bold in sexy black lingerie and talks about what it takes to be a woman of strength, but she also talks about her most vulnerable times:

V.G.: WHO MAKES A GOOD DATE TO AN EVENT?
A.B.: A friend or a sister. I mean, the husband is always great, but there is something about a girlfriend…

V.G.: WHAT DO YOU SEE WHEN YOU LOOK IN THE MIRROR?
A.B.: A passionate woman who knows what she loves and has been blessed to be able to do it…and continue to do it!

V.G.: WHAT IS YOUR GREATEST WEAKNESS?
A.B.: Love…and sugar.

V.G.: WHEN DO YOU FEEL THE MOST VULNERABLE?
A.B.: When I’m told I can’t do something. When I’m told I’m not good enough, that I can’t have something, can’t go somewhere, especially because of the color of my skin.

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Married Couples Hide Big Secrets

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Hiding secrets from your spouse is never a good idea and the foundation of a healthy relationship is trust.  The truth will almost always reveal itself eventually.  But that doesn’t stop people from trying!

*Whoa! According to one new study, 25-percent of married couples say that they hid (and are still hiding) something pretty major from their spouse. And 42-percent say they doubt they will get caught.

What is this costly secret that could potentially be a marriage deal-breaker? The study says it ranges anywhere from money troubles to infidelity to (gulp!) a pornography obsession.

And yes, these secrets have (and do!) cause the bearers many sleepless nights.

Continue reading at EURThisNThat

Exercise is Great But Love is Better for Your Health!

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People in loving relationships are generally healthier.  On the other hand, people in ambivalent relationships have significantly higher risk of heart disease according to a recent study from the University of Utah.  Lack of support increases stress, which affects the functioning of your heart.

The Center for Disease Control (CDC) reports heart disease as a leading cause of death for all African Americans and THE leading cause of death for African American women. Several medical conditions and lifestyle choices also increase risk: diabetes, overweight/obesity, poor diet, physical inactivity, and excessive alcohol use.

In academic and research circles, this direct correlation between your love life and heart disease is relatively new.  It confirms our holistic life experience and highlights the importance of having authentic love in our lives, not just for our mental and emotional health, buy also for our physical well-being.

Get Flowers, Stay Happy

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Most of us enjoy flowers. They stimulate many of our senses in a positive way, all at once. Flowers are beautiful to look at, smell great, and feel soft.

Most people feel happier when they receive gifts and giving flowers is one of the most popular gifts that couples exchange. You can stare at flowers and always see something new, smell the scent of the blooms, or rub their soft petals between your fingers.

Different colors stimulate different emotions and have different meanings. For example, red symbolizes deep love and passion, pink stands for romantic love, white for peace, and yellow stimulates health and happiness. How do we extend the life of our flowers to extend the mood?

You can put carefully pruned cut flowers in water.  Flowering plants will last longer since they are rooted in enriching soil which keeps them alive to go through different growth stages that include a dormancy period with no flowers and a blooming period, often with vibrant blooms.

Green foliage, even without any colorful flowers, often brightens a room and contributes to a nurturing environment. But of course, like any plant, you must take care of flowering plants, whether indoors or outdoors, and they are varying degrees of maintenance for each type. Don’t worry! There are low-maintenance flowering plants and high maintenance ones, so there are lots of options to choose from. Try giving a flowering plant to someone as a gift or giving one to yourself and see how it brightens the day.

5 Advantages to Group Dating

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“Hanging out” or group dating is popular, especially among singles in their teens, 20′ s and 30’s. But it’s appropriate for all ages.  Different from the hook-up mentality of many who do not desire long-lasting, committed relationships, there are many advantages to doing group outings instead of dating one-on-one.  Group dates are most helpful for matchmaking if all members of the group are open to new experiences, people, and want partners.

1. There is less pressure.  Because there are more people, even double-dating can ease the pressure of getting to know someone with romantic potential.  You are less likely to be individually scrutinized and tested on how well you impress and entertain. This reduces stress and puts the emphasis on what really matters–enjoying yourself and being social.

2. It’s economical and promotes equality.  You can split the costs evenly and enjoy activities that you might not be able to do on your own, such as gourmet dinners where food a few dishes are shared among guests at the table.

3. You have support.  The fellas have each other and so do the gals. You can bond together as a group and individually.  You have each other’s backs, if necessary and have another person to balance thoughts and opinions.

4. There are opportunities to meet new, compatible people.  Blind dating is less traumatic and as easy as “bring a friend.”  Usually, there is increased compatibility because group members are linked by some mutual association like  family, occupation, or acquaintances.

5. It’s fun! By keeping things lighter and in the moment, you can relax more and let the fun side of your personality shine.

If you feel a connection in the group setting, then one-on-one dates are an ideal way to have a more personalized, up-close  experience that may lead to something more committed and intimate later.

Read more:
Anita Baker on Dating
How to Use Your Third Eye for Dating
Technology Etiquette for Dating:  5 Rules
Are You a Desperate Dater?
The Importance of Date Night

Intimacy: Beyond Sex

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Sexual intimacy is often mistaken for intimacy, in general.  It’s not!  In fact, sexual intimacy is the easiest type of intimacy for some people to achieve, even though it has the potential to be one of the most intense.

Intimacy is much more than sexual affection and physical touch.  True intimacy involves reciprocity, mutual trust, respect, and admiration.  A conversation can be intimate.  A look can be intimate.  Body language can also be an obvious sign of intimacy, or lack of.

Intimacy is a feeling beyond the physical sensation of touch. It involves a bond that is more than superficial. The capacity for intimacy is an indication of being able to be in a healthy, loving relationship.

Heart vs. Brain

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While love is more heart chakra, your brain can also help illuminate truth.  Your heart is open to giving and receiving love.  Your mind is increasing your consciousness about healthy love.  Dating in today’s environment is about balancing both heart and mind. Use them both wisely!

Getting Back to Nature to Find Love

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Watching the sunset.  Hiking in the woods.  Swimming in the ocean.  Bonding with trees.  Seeing animals play.  Making a wish upon a star.  Being close to nature brings us closer to who we really are, which is  love.  Try this:

  • If you date online, use a picture of yourself with a natural background as your profile picture
  • On your first date, visit a lake, the ocean, the mountains, or a meadow
  • Eat outdoors whenever the weather is nice, even if it is just a balcony or sidewalk cafe
  • Breathe deeply and take in fresh air whenever possible
  • Be kind to all living creatures, big and small
  • Observe a tree in all of its glory (really pay attention to all the details!)
  • Go outside on a sunny day and enjoy the feeling of the sun on your skin

Think of love, loving relationships, being in love, having love, enjoying love while you do nature-loving things.  Being loving attracts love.

7 Ways to Get Her Mother to Like You

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If her mother is important to her, she should be important to you, too!  Most women value their mother’s opinion, especially when it comes to relationships. When you meet her mother for the first time, what do you do?  Her approval or disapproval can make or break you.

The mother-daughter bond is usually a strong one.  Her whole life, she has likely been getting advice from her mother.  As her current boyfriend, her mother may hear about all of your disagreements and be solicited regarding major relationship decisions. How can you get the nod of approval and get her to be on your side, too?

  1. Let her mother know that your intentions are to make her daughter happy.
  2. Be proactive in inviting her mother to special family events.
  3. Include her Mom in gift-giving during holiday celebrations.
  4. Introduce your mother to let your girl know that you have a mother, too!
  5. Understand that a strong mother-daughter relationship is “normal” and don’t fight it.
  6. Avoid comparing her to her mother.
  7. Treat her daughter like a queen at all times.

Is Love Your Religion?

 Embody Love
“If you surrender to a power greater than yourself,
which you should because to
think that we are in control of everything is silly,
then love and energy should be your ‘religion.'”

-Danielle Paige

www.healingpaige.com

The Link Between Love and Success

Love and Success

What is the link between love and success?  Does love lead to success?  Or does success lead to love?  Is there a causal relationship? Is there even a correlation?

There is no doubt that being successful can make you more attractive to some people.  Many women, for example, are attracted to men in powerful positions. But we are not talking about attraction.  We are talking about love!

Love is elusive for some.  And financial success does not equal love.  Just ask any rich celebrity:  success does not bring you love.

For many of us, there is no link whatsoever.  Love is love and success is just that.  But for others, love can elevate our dreams, our visions, our selves, and yes, our success.  True love makes us stronger in all aspects of our lives, including success and perhaps more importantly, our perspectives about success.

Can you be successful without love? There are examples of people who show us that yes, you can.  But maybe we are asking the wrong question.  What is your definition of success and when you are successful, does that mean that you are happy?

Most of us looking for love and success are really looking for happiness.  The link between love and happiness is absolute–we are happier when we have love in our lives.

Let Me Love You

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Baby I just don’t get it, do you enjoy being hurt?
I know you smelled the perfume, the make-up on his shirt
You don’t believe his stories, you know that they’re all lies
Bad as you are, you stick around and I just don’t know why

If I was ya man
(Baby you)
Never worry ’bout
(What I do)
I’d be coming home
(Back to you)
(Every night, doin’ you right)

You’re the type of woman
(Deserves good things)
Fistful of diamonds
(Hand full of rings)
Baby, you’re a star
(I just want to show you, you are)

You should let me love you
Let me be the one to give you everything you want and need
Baby good love and protection
Make me your selection
Show you the way love’s supposed to be
Baby you should let me love you,
love you,
love you,
love you,
yeah

Listen
Your true beauty’s description looks so good that it hurts
You’re a dime plus ninety-nine and it’s a shame
Don’t even know what you’re worth
Everywhere you go they stop and stare
‘Cause you’re bad and it shows
From your head to your toes, out of control, baby you know

If I was your man
(Baby you)
Never worry ’bout
(What I do)
I’d be coming home
(Back to you)
(Every night, doin’ you right)

You’re the type of woman
(Deserves good things)
Fistful of diamonds
(Hand full of rings)
Baby, you’re a star
(I just want to show you, who you are)

You should let me love you
Let me be the one to give you everything you want and need
Ooh baby good love and protection
Ooh make me your selection show you the way love’s supposed to be

Baby you should let me
(You deserve better girl)
You know you deserve better
(We should be together girl)
Baby, with me and you it’s whatever girl, hey
So can we make this thing ours?

You should let me love you
Let me be the one to give you everything you want and need
(Let me be the one to give, everything you need)
Good love and protection
(Said everything)
Make me your selection
(Will you take me baby)
Show you the way love’s supposed to be

(Baby you should let me love you)
You should let me love you
Let me be the one to give you everything you want and need
(I’ll give you everything)
That good love and protection
Make me your selection show you the way love’s supposed to be
(Hey)

You should let me love you
(Love you)
Let me be the one to give you everything you want and need
(The one to, everything you need)
That good love and protection
(Protection)
Make me your selection show you the way love’s supposed to be
(Selection baby)
(Yeah)

Let me love you
That’s all you need baby

4 Simple Ways to Keep Your Marriage Awesome

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Do you believe in healthy and happy marriages?  Whether you are looking to get married or “been there, done that,” these are things to think about as you set the foundation for a loving, long-lasting relationship.

Solution 1: Arguing Smart
Right-fighting or fighting to be right is a waste of energy and offers a disrespectful stance. Stay on topic and don’t include past problems or topics which are not related to the subject at hand.

Solution 2: Respect and Love and Communicate
Without respect there is no true love. Valuing our unique individualism is always worthy of respect.  Always encourage each other by giving what you would like to get in return.

Solution 3:  Lighten Up
While marriage is a big step with many responsibilities attached, it is important to let the joys of life filter in and around daily living.

Solution 4: Setting the Harmonious Stage
Setting the stage for a happy marriage takes vision, patience, compromise and complete dedication to its designed purpose.

Read the entire article: 4 Simple Ways to Keep Your Marriage AwesomeDumb Little Man 

3 Ways to Say “I Love You”

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1. Celebrate your partner’s success. This makes you and your mate feel good and epitomizes the notion of partnership.

2. Say “thank you.” Expressing gratitude for both the big things and the little things that you do for each other keeps you from taking each other for granted.

3. Combine sexy with romantic. Both are important by themselves, but when sexy attitude and romantic gestures combine, the real magic begins.

 

How To Write a Love Letter

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Reblogged from How NOT to Write a Love Letter:

These dos and don’ts can help:

Do…

  • Take your time. Writing a love letter is too nice a job to rush.
  • Share your real feelings. This is no time to be shy.
  • Write in your own everyday voice–your reader wants to hear your voice, not an imitation of someone else’s.
  • Give some thought to how your reader might react. How well do you know him or her? Are you declaring your love for the first time, or are you both so in love you’re walking on air? Don’t spoil the spontaneity, but make sure what you write seems appropriate to the level of your relationship.
  • Remember to say “I love you”!

Don’t…

  • Don’t worry that you’re “not a good writer.” You’re as good as you need to be!
  • Don’t say anything you don’t mean. It’s easy to go over the top when you’re writing a love letter. Be sure you’re being honest to yourself.
  • Don’t be afraid to say silly things. If you love the way she slams the car door or the way he chops vegetables, say so.
  • Don’t be creepy. If you’re writing to someone who doesn’t have any idea how you feel, don’t go overboard describing your feelings and your desires.
  • Don’t put it in an e-mail. This is love we’re talking about, for heaven’s sake. Invest in a nice card or writing paper, and write it out by hand. A love letter is a kind of gift–make it a tangible object they can slip under their pillow, save in their wallet, or otherwise treasure forever.
  • Don’t chicken out! Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

A personalized handwritten love letter means so much more than a pre-printed card. With a little courage and a little effort, you can make your love the happiest person in the world!