Maya Angelou’s Love Wisdom

Maya Angelou says:

“If we lose love and self respect for each other, this is how we finally die.”

“If you find it in your heart to care for somebody else, you will have succeeded.”

“My great hope is to laugh as much as I cry; to get my work done and try to love somebody and have the courage to accept the love in return.”

Five Myths About Black Love-Exposed!

MYTH #1:  Black people don’t get married. 

This is silly.  Of course we get married!  Statistically, men and women are waiting longer to get married, if they marry at all.  Marriage rates are going down across all races.  Read more about more Black marriage myths.

MYTH #2:  Black women want to be in charge of everything all of the time.

Does anybody do “everything” “all of the time?”  It’s true that some Black women are used to being self-reliant, but this is usually not a personal choice.  Given the option, most Black women would welcome a partner’s help with shared interests and responsibilities.

MYTH #3:  Black men prefer a woman of another race more often than a Black woman.

Most men prefer a woman who looks like his mother and most people prefer to date within their ethnic group.  This is true across races.  Just because there are a few high-profile interracial couples does not make it a rule-it is still an exception.

MYTH #4:  Black women come with a lot of baggage.

Most people come with “some assembly required.”  Generally, the older the person, the more baggage, but only if they do not LET GO of their past.  Our unique historical trauma can unite  African American men and women, rather than divide us.

MYTH #5:  Black men don’t commit.

Black men are no different from most men:  if a woman doesn’t require a  commitment, they are less likely to commit.  There are plenty of African American men who would love to be in a committed, monogamous relationship, but he has to believe that the woman he chooses is the right one.

Emotional Honesty

“One of the things that attracted me to Barack,” First Lady Michelle Obama says, “was his emotional honesty. Right off the bat, he said what he felt. There are no games with him—he is who he appears to be.”

Top 7 Reasons Why You Should Be in a Relationship

  • Satisfying relationships increase your personal success.
  • Satisfying relationships help you stay healthier and live longer.
  • You have someone to talk to and share with.
  • You have someone to go out with.
  • Kissing and cuddling.
  • Cost-sharing and financial help.
  • Sex!

Ten Ways to Increase Your Love Awareness

  1. THINK LOVE.   All the time!  Be willing to open your heart to love in its most purest form.  Watch love stories. Prayers, chants and meditations may be helpful.
  2. DATE. Whether you are single or with someone, have a date night at least once each week to get to know someone better.
  3. RELAX.   Know that your most natural state is a loving state.  Do the things that help you relax.
  4. GIVE AFFECTION.  Be consistent with your affection toward yourself and others.  Examples include massage, kisses, hugs, sensual touching and positive thoughts.
  5. HEAL.  If you or someone you know is sick or not feeling well, make a point to nurture yourself, him or her to soothe and comfort them during a difficult time.
  6. COMMIT.  Dedicate yourself to something or someone, whether it is a friend, a child (think, mentor), a houseplant, a pet, or a lifestyle.
  7. BE COURTEOUS.  Remember to always say “please” and “thank  you.”
  8. EMPATHIZE.  When you put yourself in someone else’s shoes, you realize how complex we can be.  Don’t judge too quickly.
  9. RETREAT.  Spending time in solitude away from negativity and distractions can help you focus on what is most important to you in  your life.
  10. BE OPEN-MINDED.  You never know who your most loving partner will be.  They may come to you in the most unexpected way!

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