New Year, New Relationship


The last year was rough for many of us.  As you recharge and get ready to begin anew in the New Year, consider your relationship with your significant other, or lack of.  What do you want to change?  What are you going to do differently?  What is your vision for the future?

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Moving On After a Breakup: 15 Tips

Pick Yourself Up

  1. Allow yourself time to grieve, feel the disappointment of unmet expectations and unfulfilled dreams.
  2. Now that you are no longer together, go within to find strength to stay away.
  3. Start planning for your future:  romantically, professionally, personally.
  4. Make a list of things that make you feel good, your Feel Good list.
  5. Everyday, try to do something on your Feel Good list.
  6. Engage in activities with friends and family to remind yourself that you are not alone.
  7. Take a walk to energize your body and clear your mind.
  8. Take vitamins and watch your health.
  9. Avoid rushing into a new relationship, but think about finding someone new, someone better.
  10. Enjoy your freedom while you have it!
  11. See your ex as a teacher and think about what you learned.
  12. Take each minute, each hour and each day, one at a time.
  13. Know that this shall pass.
  14. Read inspiration quotes to uplift your spirits.
  15. Know that this door closed in order to open a new door with something better for you.

Does Your Partner Really Know You? 5 Ways to Find Out

You Dont Even Know Me

We spend time and intimate space with our boyfriends and girlfriends, but how well do they know us, really?  Five ways to tell is your partner really knows you:

  1. Whether it costs a lot or a little, s/he knows the perfect gift to give you at any given time, holidays and non-holidays.
  2. Even though they wait patiently for you to finish, s/he could finish your sentences for you.
  3. S/he can order food at any restaurant at home or in any foreign country and you would enjoy it.
  4. S/he knows what kind of books you read and movies you like to watch.
  5. They know the secret things you do when you are home alone, just being you, and they do not judge.

The Importance of Affection: Part 1


Affection is the expression of care. It symbolizes security, protection, comfort and approval — vital ingredients in any relationship. When one spouse is affectionate toward the other, the following messages are sent:

  1. You are important to me. I will care for you and protect you.
  2. I’m concerned about the problems you face and will be there for you when you need me.

A simple hug can say those things. And there are many other ways to show our affection: A greeting card or an “I love you” note; a bouquet of flowers; holding hands; walks after dinner; back rubs; phone calls; and conversations with thoughtful and loving expressions. All of these can effectively communicate affection.

Affection is, for many, the essential cement of a relationship. Without it, many feel totally alienated. With it, they become emotionally bonded. If you feel terrific when your spouse is affectionate, and you feel terrible when there is not enough of it, you have the emotional need for affection.

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Trust Your Intuition


Everyone has an opinion:  your family, friends, coworkers, even strangers.  When it comes to love and relationships, above all, trust your intuion.  Your intuition is that gut instinct, inner voice, spiritual guidance which tells you what feels right and what feels wrong, who drains you and who uplifts you, what you feel obligated to do vs. what you are designed to do.