Where are the Men?

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Don’t believe the media hype.  Look around!  Men are everywhere.  Like women, they come in all shapes, sizes, and colors.  Some are available for relationships.  Some are not.  Some are professional.  Some are not.  Think about your choices.  Be wise in making your decisions.

HBCUs: Where Are The Black Males?

Howard University (Dist. Columbia) –Female (64%), Male (36%)
U. of District of Columbia –Female (63%), Male (38%)
Clark Atlanta University (GA) –Female (72%), Male (28%)
Albany State University (GA) –Female (67%), Male (33%)
Fort Valley State University (GA) –Female (57%), Male (43%)
Morris Brown College (GA) –Female (59%), Male (41%)
Savannah State University (GA) –Female (59%), Male (41%)
Claflin University (SC) –Female (66%), Male (34%)
South Carolina State University (SC) –Female (56%), Male (44%)
Voorhees College (SC) –Female (66%), Male (33%)
Fisk University (TN) –Female (68%), Male (32%)
Lemoyne-Owen College (TN) –Female (65%), Male (35%)
Lane College (TN) –Female (49%), Male (51%)
Tennessee State University (TN) –Female (62%), Male (38%)
Hampton University (VA) –Female (61%), Male (39%)
Norfolk State University–Female (64%), Male (36%)
St. Paul’s College (VA)–Female (63%), Male (37%)
Virginia State University (VA) –Female (56%), Male (44%)
Elizabeth City State University (NC) –Female (62%), Male (38%)
Johnson C. Smith University (NC) –Female (60%), Male (40%)
Livingstone College (NC) –Female (48%), Male (52%)
North Carolina A&T University (NC) –Female (53%), Male (47%)
North Carolina Central University (NC) –Female (64%), Male (36%)
Shaw University (NC) –Female (66%), Male (34%)
St. Augustine’s College (NC) –Female (59%), Male (41%)
Florida A&M University (FL)–Female (57%), Male (43%)
Bethune-Cookman College (FL) –Female (57%), Male (43%)

List created using data from US. News & World Report data.

 

How to Find & Choose the Right Man

After the Argument: 5 Tips for Recovery

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Too often, a disagreement becomes an argument as communication breaks down among couples and each tries (in their own way) to get their points across to the other. The irony is that the message itself is usually one that the other needs to hear.  Instead, in an argument, the message gets lost in its often dramatic, emotional translation, thus contributing to unsuccessful communication and resolution.   It’s okay!

Most communication breakdowns among loving couples can be fixed.  The key is recovery.  A couple can recover from an argument by going back, correcting what went wrong, and using the argument as a learning experience that makes the relationship better for the future.

This means that each of you has to be willing to:

  1. Take responsibility and acknowledge what YOU could have done better in your communication.
  2. Let go of your negative response when you didn’t get what you want from your partner.
  3. Communicate better by trying again and asking for what you need.
  4. Kiss and makeup with a renewed understanding of your partner and what s/he needs.
  5. File it in your memory bank to avoid repeating this behavior, thereby making it a poor communication pattern in your relationship.

Keep moving forward, don’t go backwards. When you embrace this opportunity for positive change, truly move on, and recover from an argument, you be able to minimize future conflicts in communication with your partner.

Love Yourself

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“The secret of attraction is to love yourself. Attractive people judge neither themselves nor others. They are open to gestures of love. They think about love, and express their love in every action. They know that love is not a mere sentiment, but the ultimate truth at the heart of the universe.” – Deepak Chopra