Men Want Peace

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“A man wants peace in his house and in his relationships. Intimacy is important, too. However without peace, intimacy becomes a challenge and that is when the man’s mind and eyes start to wander. In the spirit of keeping it real, if a woman of any age desires to have and build a relationship with a good man, be prepared to listen and hear/see/feel/ your man. Once you commit to doing that, a good (and intelligent) man will do all that he can to fulfill all of your needs and desires. It’s really that simple.”
Harold “Heru” Williams

Get High on Love

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Being in love gives us a natural high.  It has now been confirmed that being in love relieves pain in a way that is as powerful as morphine.  In a recent Stanford University study, 15 study participants were asked to hold a temperature probe while looking at a picture of their lovers.  The participants who looked at someone they were in love with had a 45% reduction in their perception of moderate pain and a 12% reduction in their feeling of severe pain.

Romance 101

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Keith Hammond’s book, Romance 101:  Class is in Session, is dedicated to “the women who want to know their men” and to “the men who need to know their women.”  On page 89, he suggests creating a Romance List, a list of the romantic things you want your mate to do to please you, likely the things that were common in the courtship phase of the relationship.  According to Hammond, these are learned behaviors that can and should be taught and reinforced. The Romance List includes the following:

  • Cuddle With Me
  • Spoon With Me
  • Say I Love You
  • Take a Long Walk With Me
  • Open Doors For Me
  • Kiss Me Passionately
  • Hold My Hand
  • Make Me Laugh
  • Touch Me With Sensuality
  • Flirt With Me
  • Lick My Ears and E-Zones
  • Fix Me Hot Baths
  • Give Me Body & Scalp Massages
  • Tongue Only Sex Me
  • Communicate & Listen To Me
  • Candlelight Dine Me
  • Flowers, Cards, Gifts, Candy, Poetry
  • Weekend Getaways
  • Silently Stare Deeply into My Eyes
  • Dance Lessons
  • Take Classes and Learn Together

Now, add your own!

Technology Etiquette for Dating: 5 Rules

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It’s easy:  just remember the Golden Rule of doing unto others as you would like them to do unto you.  When you are dating and getting to know someone better, these simple rules will be helpful.  Remember, you only get one chance to make a first impression.  And technology is no substitute for human companionship.  Cherish each other and respect each other’s time.

  1. Do not use your cell phone when driving.  Pull over to make or receive calls or messages.
  2. Call or text as soon as you find out you are running late and make sure it includes an apology and the approximate time you will arrive.
  3. When you are out on a date with someone special, don’t use your cell phone to play games, engage in social media activities, or check email.
  4. Don’t answer your cell phone when you are out on a date with someone special (unless it is your babysitter or child calling-then, be brief and explain the interruption).
  5. If you use your camera phone to take pictures, make sure you include the person that you are with in the pictures.

Truthfulness

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Truthfulness is being honest in your words and actions.  You don’t tell lies, even to defend yourself.  You don’t listen to gossip or prejudice.  See the truth for yourself.  You don’t try to be more than you are to impress others.  Be yourself, your true self.

You are practicing truthfulness when you…
*  Don’t let others tell you what to think
*  Investigate the truth for yourself
*  Can tell the difference between fact and fantasy
*  Admit when you have made a mistake
*  Don’t exaggerate or deceive to impress othersAffirmation: I am truthful. I speak the truth. I see the truth with my own eyes.  I am content to be my true self.

Source:  The Virtues Project and The Family Connection, U.S. Virgin Islands

We All Need Love

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I Love My People.

I Love My Culture.

I Love LOVE.

Love Yourself.  Love Each Other.

I AM YOUR AFRICAN AMERICAN MATCHMAKER,

Angela D. Coleman

Pet Peeves

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Whether it’s your first date or the two of you have been together for awhile, make sure you don’t do any of these activities, which some of our African American Matchmaking members have listed as their pet peeves–extremely annoying and irritating behavior that they can’t stand:

  • Smoking
  • Bad breath
  • Arrogance
  • Inappropriate dress
  • Nail-biting
  • Being mean
  • Being rude
  • Long fingernails
  • Using words when you don’t know what they mean
  • Trying to finish my story for me or guess what I am trying to say
  • Bad odor/poor hygiene
  • Lack of confidence
  • Lack of grooming/looking sloppy
  • Using poor grammar
  • Not doing what you say you are going to do
  • Not listening
  • Heavy drinking
  • Poor table manners

10 Ways to Become a Better Listener

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According to Forbes author Michelle Crawley, marketers could use her ten tips to be better marketers.  In the same way, when dating and loving another person, we could do it better if we listen more carefully:

  1. Stop talking. If you want to hear what someone has to say, you have to be silent.
  2. Block out the distractions and really concentrate on what the other person is telling you. Don’t let your mind wander.
  3. Fine-tune your senses. You can glean a lot of information from tone, delivery, body language and surroundings.
  4. Maintain eye contact.
  5. Really hear what the person is saying, instead of thinking ahead about how you are going to respond or about how you’ve had a similar experience. It’s not about you.
  6. Instead of taking notes, just listen—carefully.
  7. Repeat back some of the points you are hearing to verify and clarify.
  8. Ask open-ended questions because these elicit a more descriptive response.
  9. Give cues—both visual and auditory—that you are following what the other person is saying.
  10. Don’t be afraid to follow up when necessary.

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10 Love Foods

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Eating is necessary to live, but some of us live to eat! What foods can increase your love awareness?

  1. Raw honey
  2. Chocolate
  3. Watermelon
  4. Pomegranates
  5. Vanilla
  6. Figs
  7. Avocado
  8. Chili peppers
  9. Bananas
  10. Oysters

LOVE DRINK BONUS:  Red wine

Matchmaking Call for Bachelors

Updated July 15, 2013

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A matchmaking call is like a casting call, but instead of inviting people to cast in a movie, play, or television show, African American Matchmaking invites people to match with our current African American Matchmaking members.

If you are an African American bachelor and fit one of these matching calls or know someone who does, let us know:  contact@africanamericanmatchmaking.com  African American Matchmaking may match you for FREE!  At African American Matchmaking, we have your match!

CALIFORNIA
Age: 33-40
Height: 6′ and up
Weight:  all weights
contact@africanamericanmatchmaking.com

DISTRICT OF COLUMBIA:  METRO AREA INCLUDING MARYLAND & VIRGINIA
Age: 30-45
Height: 5′ 6″ and up
Weight:  all weights
contact@africanamericanmatchmaking.com

GEORGIA
Age: 38-55
Height: 5′ 9″ and up
Weight:  all weights
contact@africanamericanmatchmaking.com

FLORIDA
Age: 32-45
Height: 5′ 9″ and up
Weight:  all weights
contact@africanamericanmatchmaking.com

NEW YORK
Age: 38-48
Height: 5′ 11″ and up
Weight:  all weights
contact@africanamericanmatchmaking.com

NORTH CAROLINA
Age: 36-55
Height: 5′ 5″ and up
Weight:  all weights
contact@africanamericanmatchmaking.com

OKLAHOMA
Age: 44-55
Height: 5′ 7″ and up
Weight:  all weights
contact@africanamericanmatchmaking.com

TEXAS
Age: 37-52
Height: 5′ 7″ and up
Weight:  all weights
contact@africanamericanmatchmaking.com

Matchmaking Call for Bachelorettes

Updated July 15, 2013

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A matchmaking call is like a casting call, but instead of inviting people to cast in a movie, play, or television show, African American Matchmaking invites people to match with our current African American Matchmaking members.

If you are an African American bachelorette and fit one of these matching calls or know someone who does, let us know:  contact@africanamericanmatchmaking.com.   African American Matchmaking may match you for FREE!  At African American Matchmaking, we have your match!

DISTRICT OF COLUMBIA:  METRO AREA INCLUDING MARYLAND & VIRGINIA
Age: 28-38
Height: 5’4″-5′ 9″
Weight:  up to 160 lbs.
contact@africanamericanmatchmaking.com

5 Colors of Love

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Sight is just one of our very powerful senses.  You can increase joy, happiness, health, and love with COLOR!

Wear these colors every day to increase your love awareness.  You don’t have to wear the full color:  you may also use smaller bursts of color in an accessory like a tie, scarf or hat. Consider the colors you want to wear for special dates and social events.

These are the Five Colors of Love:

RED:  action, affection, passion and emotion, blood and fire

YELLOW:  happiness, encouragement, radiant energy of the sun, joy

WHITE:  not a color, but the absence of color, color of the bride, elegance

BLACK:  sexiness, mystery, intrigue, magic

GOLD:  wealth, power, beauty, royalty

 

Dramatic Events & Unbelievable Changes Of The Year 2013

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Sofia Siberia says:

The things we’ve been so painfully going through for the past few months were all the effects of a massive karmic changeover of the year 2013.

The History is now.

Look back at your life and lives of the people you know – how many speedy changes and incredible events had happened just recently.

Striking number of relationships and marriages split.

Couples suddenly fell out of love with one another, as if woke up and found it all worked out.

We are no more interested in drama/manipulative affairs and are letting them go with no regret.

Why so many marriages ended and people in relationships had a sudden change of heart?

That’s because those were some karmic affairs where you were brought together not to live happily ever after, but to return each other something you owed from the past.

The person you thought you loved was just your karmic decoy, we all have to go through involvements of that kind at some point of our life.

And now that we settled accounts, it’s time to ascend to the newer kind of relations – of no drama, no emotional manipulation and no cliché expectations or power struggles.

Now we are shifting towards the trend of finding our true spiritual partners and the interest in Twin Flames reunion is intense.

In the new era of spiritual matchmaking there are no more ego things we’ll feel like proving to each other. Now we can actually feel our soulmates keener – be in a couple or not, and still love and help each other evolve and not bring each other down.

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Be Better, Not Bitter

Bitter Past

 Too many of us block our blessings with bitterness, especially when it comes to love and loving:

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Initially we blame others for our circumstances and then we blame ourselves. But true growth and fulfillment can only come when you stop blaming…period! There’s a word for the mistakes we make with our finances, our children, and our relationships… it’s called life! Get used to it, because there will be plenty of mistakes and disappointments to come.

The challenge is whether or not we learn from those mistakes and apply them to our future decisions. Only when we use our pain to improve our way of thinking do we truly evolve.

~ Michael Baisden

Trustworthiness

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Trustworthiness is being worthy of trust.  People can count on you to do your best, to keep your word, and to follow through on your commitments.  You do what you say you will do.  Trustworthiness is a key to success in anything you do.

You are practicing trustworthiness when you …

* Think before you  make a promise to be sure you can do it.

*  Take responsibility for remembering your commitments.

*  Keep your promises even when they become hard to do.

*  Abide by the rules even when no one is watching.

*  Let nothing stop you from keeping your word.

*  Do your best and finish what you start.

Affirmation:  I am trustworthy.  I keep my word.  I am worthy of the trust others place in me.

Source:  The Virtues Project and The Family Connection, U.S. Virgin Islands

We Need More Love in Our Communities: 10 Reasons

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  1. Love helps us heal.
  2. Love relieves stress.
  3. Love lowers your blood pressure.
  4. Love helps you be more giving to others.
  5. Giving love helps you receive love.
  6. Love boosts immunity to disease.
  7. Love cures love deprivation.
  8. Love boosts confidence and self-esteem.
  9. Love increases quality of life.
  10. Love helps you live longer.

Add your own reasons with your comments below:

I Ain’t Movin’

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I Ain’t Movin’
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Love is my passion, love is my friend
Love’s universal, love never ends
Then why am I faced with so much anger, so my pain?
Why should I hide? Why should I be ashamed?
Time’s much too short to be livin’, somebody else’s life
I walk with dignity, I step with pride
‘Cause I ain’t moving from my face, from my race, from my history
I ain’t movin’ from my love, my peaceful dove, means too much to me
And loving self can be so hard, honesty can be demanding
Learn to love yourself it’s a great, great feeling
When you’re down baby, I will set you free
I will be your remedy, I will be your tree
A wise man is clever, seldom ever speaks a word
A foolish man keeps talking, never is he heard, no no no no
Time’s much too short to be livin’, somebody else’s life
I walk with dignity, I step with pride
‘Cause I ain’t moving from my face, from my race, from my history
I ain’t movin’ from my love, my peaceful dove, means too much to me
And loving self can be so hard, honesty can be demanding
Learn to love yourself it’s a great, great feeling
Time’s too lonely, too lonely without words
Future voices need to be heard
Eyebrows are always older than the beards
Momma said be brave, you’ve nothing to fear and I, ooh
Time’s much too short to be livin’, somebody else’s life
I walk with dignity, I step with pride
‘Cause I ain’t moving from my face, from my race, from my history
I ain’t movin’ from my love, my peaceful dove, means too much to me
And loving self can be so hard, honesty can be demanding
Learn to love yourself it’s a great, great feeling
‘Cause I ain’t moving from my face, from my race, from my history
I ain’t movin’ from my love, my peaceful dove, means too much to me
And loving self can be so hard, honesty can be demanding
If we learn to love ourself we’ll have great, great feeling
‘Cause I ain’t movin’, I’ve been here long before
I ain’t movin’ ’cause I want more
I ain’t movin’, got my feet on the ground, hey
As far as I’m concerned, love should win the rounds, oh yeah

Xerox CEO Ursula Burns’ Love Advice for Ambitious Women

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Ursula Burns grew up poor and became the first African American female to lead a Fortune 500 company as CEO.  As Madam Chairman and CEO of Xerox, she is also the first woman to succeed another woman as head of a Fortune 500 company.

Finding a good, older husband, says Ursula, was key to her success and ability to balance work and family demands that included long hours at the office and frequent travel.  Her husband, a scientist and researcher, was twenty years older than her.  Not only was he mature, “he had already gone through all this ‘growing up’ stuff,” she says, he was there for her and her children.  When he retired with two young children at home, it was no problem. “So, the secret,” she says, “is to marry someone 20 years older.”

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