How To Stop Turning People Off & Start Turning Them On!


Why don’t they want to meet up?

Why didn’t they call me?

You just can’t seem to meet anyone, or if you do nothing gets past the first or second date, your friends always seem too busy with other things ~ it really sucks!

It feels so confusing and slightly paranoid and if you feel like you’re being avoided.

You probably are…

They’re not being mean intentionally ~ well most people, they probably don’t know why, or don’t know how to say it, but they just don’t want to be around you.

You’re turning them off…

Being turned on by someone isn’t just about sex and being attracted to how someone looks; it’s about feeling attracted to how someone feels…  READ MORE

TV & Reality

Reality vs TV

Are you watching matchmaking shows on tv?  Good!  It can help to increase your love awareness and educate you about the process of matchmaking.  However, at African American Matchmaking, we caution viewers who are interested in matchmaking to manage their expectations.  What do we mean by this? Well, let me explain.

The process of matchmaking largely involves the unseen. All African American Matchmaking members and potential matches are interviewed and screened.  Please keep in mind that we are looking for a match for you, not simply a date for the weekend.  Unlike a one-hour television show, this takes a long time, requiring both research skills and patience.  When you are matched, we provide pre-date preparation and date follow-up.  If you are happy with your match, we simply monitor how your relationship is progressing.  At some point, you might want to discontinue that relationship or you may like me to keep searching for a match. It’s up to you and we can do either.  Typically, we make a recommendation based on what is going on with the first match and your level of satisfaction.  Remember:  we are looking for a match for you, not simply a date.

Most of us can appreciate shows about matchmaking.  Everyone needs love.  At African American Matchmaker we work on the premise that there is at least one partner out there for you.  Television can be educational, but it is primarily a vehicle for entertainment. Having said that, we predict many more matchmaking shows because we believe that matchmaking is the future of love.

Helping You Find Your Match,
Angela D. Coleman, MBA
African American Matchmaker

Love Yourself, Love Each Other

What is a Date?


Dating involves:

  1. Spending time together with just the two of you on a regular basis.
  2. Doing a variety of activities such as eating, going to the movies, attending a sporting event.
  3. Respecting yourself and expecting your date to respect you.
  4. Meeting in public places.
  5. Introducing each other to friends, parents, and siblings.
  6. Communicating in a positive way with each other.
  7. Having high standards and enforcing them.
  8. Knowing what you will accept as appropriate behavior and know what you will not tolerate.
  9. Being consistent with your words and actions.
  10. Being open-minded to doing new things.

Attracting Your Dream Partner

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Most of us have heard of The Secret and law of attraction. Does it work for love?  Of course! According to Dominique Andersen, founder of STRETCH+BLOOM, you can manifest your dream partner through the power of intention and the law of attraction.

Specifically, STRETCH+BLOOM teaches women how to “find love with the law of attraction.”  The pre-recorded home self-study course comes with assignments, visualizations, and affirmations to help women manifest their dream relationship.

Ms. Andersen states, “I dreamt of finding true love with someone who shared my passions, my values and my dreams. Someone I could laugh with, grow with. Someone I could trust to have my back and someone I could see myself building a future with… in spite of the odds, I easily found my match. Or let’s just say that the universe gently pushed us towards each other.”

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  1. The most commonly used concept in manifesting is the idea of vibrating in harmony with what we want to experience.
  2. Everything has a frequency: every object, sound, smell, thoughts and feelings.
  3. Conscious manifesting consists of becoming attuned to the frequency you wish to experience.
  4. To tune your frequency, you have to pay attention to what you want to experience. You need to have thoughts that are in fitting with what you want to experience, and have feelings that are in harmony with what you want to experience.
  5. Manifesting and tuning are ways to increase your love awareness to attract your loving partner.  That is why we publish dynamic, uplifting love content at and encourage you to FOLLOW. 

You can do this on your own, but if you need more assistance with manifesting and tuning in to attract your ideal mate, you can enlist the help of professionals like Law of Attraction teacher Dominique Andersen.  Her course can show you how.

10 Signs of a Healthy Relationship


A healthy relationship is one where is there is mutual trust, caring, and commitment.  And this feels good!  You know you are in a healthy relationship when:

  1. You feel free to be yourself.
  2. Thinking about each other makes you smile.
  3. You date regularly.
  4. You exchange information about each other’s lives on a regular basis.
  5. You can rely on each other for support and advice when you need it.
  6. You make plans together.
  7. There is no physical, emotional, or verbal abuse.
  8. You consistently share healthy sexual experiences together.
  9. The two of you can talk about sensitive issues.
  10. You contiinue to develop outside interests and friendships without restrictions.