Trust & Your Three Choices

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When you enter into a relationship, you take a chance that you will either break up with this person or be with them forever.  Both outcomes can be exciting and scary.  When you lose trust in your partner, you lose trust in the relationship. Then, you have three choices:

  1. Do nothing
  2. Build trust back up again
  3. Leave the relationship

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It can help to be prepared for the outcome and understand the time it takes for something to be reborn or die.  This time is often based on your personality and the investment you made in your relationship.

Also, you can analyze your options and its impact on your life. Above all, it is useful to trust your intuition and realize that love in real life can be just as messy and unpredictable as it is kind and euphoric.

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Are You an Alpha Female? 5 Ways to Tell

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In the wild, the alpha is the one with the highest rank.  Most social animals, including humans, have identified alphas in the community to whom they pay much respect.  The king of the jungle can usually have the female of his choice, sometimes even more than one.  But what about the alpha female?

The alpha female seems to have it all-except love. You know you are an alpha female if:

  1. You are often the leader in your group; professionally, socially or both.
  2. The word “empowerment” has been in your vocabulary since birth.
  3. You have a hard time finding and keeping romantic relationships.
  4. You have been told that you or your success can be “intimidating” to men.
  5. You are a highly valued asset to your organization.

Both males and females can be alphas.  However, unlike alpha males, alpha females do not usually have an easy time finding a partner because they don’t fit traditional feminine roles.   Alpha females are often very successful and lovely, yet have a reputation for being aggressive, even domineering.  Ironically, these same traits are highly valued in alpha males.

While men are generally attracted to the alpha female, she tends to frighten them with her power.  Therefore, alpha females tend to exert the most influence among her female peers rather than with the opposite sex.  For example, many alpha females have “fans” or followers who are part of her regular social network; she leads and they follow. But we all know that alpha women need love, too!

Are alpha females “unmatchable”? Absolutely not.  We can all find our match.  In fact, when alpha males and females unite, they are known as an alpha pair, think “power couple.”  Alphas don’t have to pair with each other in order for the relationship to be rewarding, long-lasting, and successful.  In fact, this might not be ideal because some alphas will compete with each other instead of focusing on their loving union to uplift each other.

Alpha females need to be matched with someone who appreciates and genuinely respects their alpha qualities.  The relationship won’t work if he says he does, but in reality, he just doesn’t.  Alpha females should also be aware of being led (consciously or unconsciously) by the biological clock.  Alpha females don’t panic and they don’t settle.  It is important for alpha females to walk away from men who are intimidated by them and gravitate toward men who embrace alpha women.  Don’t worry, there are many!

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Mystical Meditation

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Picture yourself in a loving relationship.

You first separate yourself from the body; then you identify yourself with the mind, and then you function on the mental plane, with this fine body just as you do on this physical plane.

Through concentration, you rise above the body-consciousness; through meditation, you rise above mind; and finally through Samadhi, you realize your spiritual nature.

These are three important exercises of Antaranga sadhana in the achievements of Kaivalya, the final beautitude. You can, by mere willing alone, travel to any place you like with the astral body and there materialize by drawing the necessary elements either from Ahankara or the universal storehouse, the ocean of Tanmatras.

The process is very, very simple to occultists and Yogis who know the rationale, the detailed technique of the various operations.

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How to Use Your Third Eye- For Dating

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Have you ever wondered…?

The third eye (also known as the inner eye) is a mystical and esoteric concept referring to a speculative invisible eye which provides perception beyond ordinary sight. In certain dharmic spiritual traditions such as Hinduism, the third eye refers to the ajna, or brow, chakra. In Theosophy, it is related to the pineal gland. The third eye refers to the gate that leads to inner realms and spaces of higher consciousness.

In New Age spirituality, the third eye often symbolizes a state of enlightenment or the evocation of mental images having deeply personal spiritual or psychological significance. The third eye is often associated with religious visions, clairvoyance, the ability to observe chakras and auras, precognition, and out-of-body experiences. People who are claimed to have the capacity to utilize their third eyes are sometimes known as seers.

Your third eye is located between your eyes on the lower part of your forehead.  We can all learn to be seers.  For dating, you can use your third eye to:

Sense the character and intentions of someone you are interested in.

Everyone radiates a field of energy.  These vibrations can be positive (they make you feel good and safe) or negative (there is conflict, a sense of uneasiness, and even sickness).  Learning to be a seer means learning to trust your intuition above “rational” thought and being sensitive to your environment. Importantly, it also means responding to who people are, not simply responding to who people say they are.  Some questions to ask yourself:

  1. Is this someone I am really interested in or am I lonely?
  2. Do I see this person integrated into my life and us both being happy?
  3. Do I sense longevity and stability with this person?

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“Ask for what you want and be prepared to get it!” Maya Angelou

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