Lovely Lingerie

Lingerie

“The sad truth is I can go weeks at a time without coming across
a nice photo of a woman of color in lingerie.”
Cora Harrington, a.k.a. Treacle Tart, cross-posted from The Lingerie Addict.

Most of us are stimulated when we see something that appeals to us.
African Americans wear lingerie, too!  Do you?

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Research Shows Black, White & Latino People Prefer Their Own Race

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According to the the 2013 American Values Survey (AVS) conducted by the Public Religion Research Institute:

  • Americans overall reported, on average, a social network of 3.4 people out of a maximum of seven people. Overall, people named in these networks are slightly more likely to be immediate family members (an average of 1.8 people) than non-immediate family members (an average of 1.5 people).
  • Among White Americans, 91 percent of people comprising their social networks are also White, while five percent are identified as some other race. Among Black Americans, 83 percent of people in their social networks are composed of people who are also Black, while eight percent are White and six percent are another race.
  • Among Hispanic Americans, 64 percent of the people who comprise their social networks are also Hispanic, 19 percent are White, and nine percent are another race.

 

 

For Many of Us, the First Step to Love is Healing

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Common responses to trauma include increased anxiety, emotional detachment, and addictive behaviors such as alcohol, drugs, sex, overeating, gambling, shopping, etc. Things that remind a person of a traumatic event can trigger avoidance symptoms. These symptoms may cause a person to change his or her personal routine. Have any of these behaviors replaced love in your life?

You don’t have to be trapped by your history. Human beings are amazingly resilient; we can heal ourselves. Healing is the restoration of health, soundness and spiritual wholeness. It is a reconciliation of the past and present for a brighter tomorrow.

The most effective way to heal is to do it together. The first step is to start with self-love—love the person you are. Healing with your family, friends, and/or significant others who are also conscious enough to be on a path toward collective recovery and love is also important and immensely helpful. Remember that you must first love yourself in order to be able to love others. Your healing begins on the inside; so, don’t be afraid to surround yourself with love on the outside.

We heal when we put love first. We heal when we prioritize ourselves. We heal when we master the art of LETTING GO of the past to honor the gifts of the present and move forward toward a wiser, more positive future.

Excerpt from Black Girls Guide:  How to Find & Choose the Right Man

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