New Site for African American Matchmaking

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Making so much progress… we can’t stop! We listened to your needs and feedback as African American Matchmaking members and those concerned about the state of Black love. As a result, we have been working diligently on a new site that responds to YOU and your matchmaking desires. We have developed other aspects of the site to focus on making your matchmaking process as smooth and easy as possible.  After next week, blog posts to increase love awareness will be located here:  http://africanamericanmatchmaking/blog/. Current subscribers will continue to receive posts.

THIS IS BRAND NEW.  Receiving online matchmaking services is as easy as 1-2-3:

  1. Register.  Create an account and profile.  Once approved, you will receive an email with login information.
  2. Choose your membership level.  The most popular plan gives you 30 days of matchmaking services free.
  3. Activate your membership. That’s it!

You will then have access to the select group of African American Matchmaking members looking for the same thing you are looking for.  A unique matchmaking algorithm will provide match ratings for each potential match and I am there to guide your journey. In addition to other online groups that you can create and join as a member, I monitor your progress, make recommendations, and host a members-only forum where I respond to your most pressing concerns.  Technical support for the site is also available.

African American Matchmaking is private, selective, effective and empowering. Can you tell that I am excited? Great, let’s get started.

P.S.  If you have already submitted information to us, we will contact you regarding the status of your membership.

Warm Regards,
Angela D. Coleman
African American Matchmaker

“No Matter How Long the Night, the Day is Sure to Come.” African Proverb

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The Goal of African American Matchmaking:  To Help You Find a Loving Relationship!

African American Matchmaking is a company that promotes Black Love:
Advice, Inspiration and Matchmaking Services

Online Dater Bias Against Black Women

Sister Breaking OutStudies show Black women are the least desired group on online dating sites. HOW CAN THAT BE?

For those Black women who’ve tried their hand at finding love online, the results may not be all that surprising. But the racial breakdown of desirability is certainly intriguing.

Buzzfeed produced a video to explain the findings of the many studies on racial preferences in online dating:

Advice from African American Matchmaking: 
Break out from the the mold of expectations, assimilation, wanna-be behavior, doubt, and insecurity by being yourself.

Keep the faith and keep Black love alive by doing something different, not just online dating.

We know that Black women are desirable and have been for centuries.  Don’t allow dominant culture beauty standards confuse you with erroneous social comparisons and avoid over-reliance on technology when dating.

Know your worth and find a partner who does, too.


“Ask for what you want and be prepared to get it!” Maya Angelou

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The Goal of African American Matchmaking:  To Help You Find a Loving Relationship!

African American Matchmaking is a company that promotes Black Love:
Advice, Inspiration and Matchmaking Services

What Happened to Courtship?


Courtship is being redefined.  Is it for the better?

Young 20-somethings “hang out,” opting for group socializing over personal one-on-one encounters and often engage in casual “hook-up” sex.  Texting, e-mail, Twitter or other forms of “asynchronous communication” have replaced more personal introductions. According to a recent New York Times article about courtship today:

“In the context of dating, it removes much of the need for charm; it’s more like dropping a line in the water and hoping for a nibble.”

“We’re all Ph.D.’s in Internet stalking these days,” said Andrea Lavinthal, an author of the 2005 book “The Hookup Handbook.” “Online research makes the first date feel unnecessary, because it creates a false sense of intimacy. You think you know all the important stuff, when in reality, all you know is that they watch ‘Homeland.’ ”

According to the article:

“Online dating services, which have gained mainstream acceptance, reinforce the hyper-casual approach by greatly expanding the number of potential dates. Faced with a never-ending stream of singles to choose from, many feel a sense of “FOMO” (fear of missing out), so they opt for a speed-dating approach — cycle through lots of suitors quickly.

That also means that suitors need to keep dates cheap and casual. A fancy dinner? You’re lucky to get a drink.”

Also cited in the article are the changing economic power dynamic between the genders. This means that younger generations are expecting and accepting something very different in their relationships, much different from previous generations.  Witnessing the divorce rates of their parents, reliance on technological communications, and more casual encounters…   Does this help them find a match or hurt them?  What do you think?


Your Mate is Your Match

African Wedding

We can use the words “mate,” “match,” and “partner”
interchangeably because they are all THE ONE.

Creative Visualization

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Are you using creative visualization to your full benefit?  In Black Girls Guide: How to Find & Choose the Right Man, I write about its importance for finding a great relationship.   What loving relationship do you see in your future?

In the inspirational bestseller, Creative Visualization, author Shakti Gawain, explains that creative visualization is the technique of using your natural imagination to create what you want in your life. Our imagination, “the basic creative energy of the Universe” works whether we are aware of it or not. This ancient knowledge is the foundation of what people are now calling “The Secret” and “The Law of Attraction.”

To imagine, we must use information that is available to us, and then expand it. To imagine love is to increase our love awareness.

To be loving, we need to know what love is. Once we are able to identify it, we need to make it a constant in our lives. We need to really understand what it looks like, smells like, tastes like, and feels like.


What You Can Do: 

  • Nighttime is a particularly effective time for creative visualization.
  • Be as specific as you can to get what you really want.

TV & Reality

Reality vs TV

Are you watching matchmaking shows on tv?  Good!  It can help to increase your love awareness and educate you about the process of matchmaking.  However, at African American Matchmaking, we caution viewers who are interested in matchmaking to manage their expectations.  What do we mean by this? Well, let me explain.

The process of matchmaking largely involves the unseen. All African American Matchmaking members and potential matches are interviewed and screened.  Please keep in mind that we are looking for a match for you, not simply a date for the weekend.  Unlike a one-hour television show, this takes a long time, requiring both research skills and patience.  When you are matched, we provide pre-date preparation and date follow-up.  If you are happy with your match, we simply monitor how your relationship is progressing.  At some point, you might want to discontinue that relationship or you may like me to keep searching for a match. It’s up to you and we can do either.  Typically, we make a recommendation based on what is going on with the first match and your level of satisfaction.  Remember:  we are looking for a match for you, not simply a date.

Most of us can appreciate shows about matchmaking.  Everyone needs love.  At African American Matchmaker we work on the premise that there is at least one partner out there for you.  Television can be educational, but it is primarily a vehicle for entertainment. Having said that, we predict many more matchmaking shows because we believe that matchmaking is the future of love.

Helping You Find Your Match,
Angela D. Coleman, MBA
African American Matchmaker

Love Yourself, Love Each Other

Attracting Your Dream Partner

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Most of us have heard of The Secret and law of attraction. Does it work for love?  Of course! According to Dominique Andersen, founder of STRETCH+BLOOM, you can manifest your dream partner through the power of intention and the law of attraction.

Specifically, STRETCH+BLOOM teaches women how to “find love with the law of attraction.”  The pre-recorded home self-study course comes with assignments, visualizations, and affirmations to help women manifest their dream relationship.

Ms. Andersen states, “I dreamt of finding true love with someone who shared my passions, my values and my dreams. Someone I could laugh with, grow with. Someone I could trust to have my back and someone I could see myself building a future with… in spite of the odds, I easily found my match. Or let’s just say that the universe gently pushed us towards each other.”

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  1. The most commonly used concept in manifesting is the idea of vibrating in harmony with what we want to experience.
  2. Everything has a frequency: every object, sound, smell, thoughts and feelings.
  3. Conscious manifesting consists of becoming attuned to the frequency you wish to experience.
  4. To tune your frequency, you have to pay attention to what you want to experience. You need to have thoughts that are in fitting with what you want to experience, and have feelings that are in harmony with what you want to experience.
  5. Manifesting and tuning are ways to increase your love awareness to attract your loving partner.  That is why we publish dynamic, uplifting love content at and encourage you to FOLLOW. 

You can do this on your own, but if you need more assistance with manifesting and tuning in to attract your ideal mate, you can enlist the help of professionals like Law of Attraction teacher Dominique Andersen.  Her course can show you how.

How African American Matchmaking Helps Black Men

Who Black Men Marry
“My experience with African American matchmaking has been a great one. In a few short months, my once dead dating life has sprung to life, thanks to this amazing service.

Many dating services just throw singles into the water and watch us drown. Poorly written profiles, bad pictures, sloppy online etiquette and phone skills, and first date awkwardness keep a lot of great men and women from finding love, but thanks to your no-nonsense, step-by-step coaching, I am much more comfortable and feel myself moving closer to the woman of my dreams.

Because of African American Matchmaking, I am meeting more people, making fewer mistakes and see the path to meeting ‘the one’ much more clearly.”

B. David, African American Matchmaking Member

Real Black Talk


African American Matchmaker, Angela D. Coleman, discusses love and
realtionships on Real Black Talk  Saturday, July 6, 2013 from 11pm EST.

Six in the Afternoon

B Smith's Union Station

On Saturday, June 15, 2013 at 12noon, African American Matchmaking presented Six in the Afternoon, an elegant lunch event with three male members and three female members to meet and greet in the Washington, DC metropolitan area at B. Smith’s Restaurant at Union Station.

Six in the Afternoon is an exciting opportunity to meet a potential match. The event was a great success!  We are currently planning more Six in the Afternoon events in different cities. 

Did you know that you can host African American Matchmaking at your next event? Click HERE for more details. 

Who Controls Online Dating?


Very few, if any, online dating sites are Black-owned.  Each site claims to have its own online community and charges its own membership fees.  You can join as many sites as you like.  But did you know that most of them are owned and managed by one company?  People Media, a company, is an online dating monopoly.  The company own all of the following sites:


If you have been doing the same thing and it is not working, maybe it’s time to try something truly different.

Imani’s Song


Imani Wright

Celebrating our children and increasing their love awareness from a young age, we used 14-year old Imani Wright’s original audio track for the new African American Matchmaking Commercial.   Congratulations, Imani and keep up the good work!  Check out the video:

Our Female Members

AAM Female Members*These are just a few of our African American Matchmaking female members

African American Matchmaking maintains a national registry of eligible men and women.  Our female members are:

  • Beautiful
  • Professional
  • Sexy
  • Screened
  • Looking for that special someone

African American Matchmaking has your match!

Do you want a woman of beauty, style, and substance?

Are online dating sites making you depressed?

Wouldn’t it be great to have a matchmaker to work on your behalf, even though you’re not a millionaire?

That special someone could be you!


Color Code Personality Science

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The Color Code Personality Assessment is an accurate, comprehensive, and easy to use personality test.

Unlike other personality tests, The Color Code not only identifies what you do but why you do it, allowing you to gain much deeper and more useful insights into your personality.

If you’d like to improve a relationship with anyone in your life, gain an advantage at the office, or just get to know yourself a little better, we invite you to take the free personality test and give Color Code a try!

Color Code What Hue Are YouReds are the power wielders.  Power is defined as the ability to move from point A to point B.  Reds are about results and productivity.  They bring great gifts of vision and leadership.  Reds are generally characterized as responsible, decisive, proactive and assertive.

Blues love to give of themselves to others.  Intimacy, connecting, creating quality relationships and having purpose is what drives these people.  Their natural gifts include quality and service.  Blues can be counted on to be loyal, sincere, and thoughtful.

Whites are peacekeepers.  Peace, or the ability to stay calm in the midst of chaos, is what motivates a White.  Clarity and tolerance are White gifts.  Whites are also known for their qualities of kindness, adaptability, and patience.

Yellows love to have fun.  The joy of living in the moment and doing something just for the sake of doing it is the driving force for these people.  Yellows offer the gifts of enthusiasm and optimism.  They are generally charismatic, spontaneous, and sociable.

Using the Color Code you will develop increased levels of self-awareness (the #1 key element for developing emotional intelligence skills); learn how to effectively understand and work with employees and team members; improve communication skills; and are better prepared to create successful professional and social relationships.

Take the Color Code Personality Assessment!

Get Started: Morehouse Alumni

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African American Matchmaking Welcomes New Partner
Morehouse College National Alumni Association!

Read more in the Morehouse National Alumni Association Newsletter.

Benefits of Membership


Based on your registration information, African American Matchmaking will invite you to apply for membership ONLY IF we believe we can match you with a loving partner.   African American Matchmaking is an exclusive matchmaking service that has the right to not approve your application or request at any time for any reason.

Benefits of African American Matchmaking membership include:

  • Inclusion in our national registry
  • Background check
  • Personal matchmaking services
  • Extensive interview, assessment and review
  • Date preparation
  • Relationship coaching
  • Advice

Don’t Stop-Keep Going

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Even when you have a matchmaker working on your behalf to find a loving partner, don’t stop doing your work.  A matchmaker works WITH you, not INSTEAD of you.

There are many things that you can do while  your matchmaker does his/her job.  Get ready for love.  If you feel better with less weight, go ahead and start losing the weight. Start or continue your self-development activities.  Also, if you are registered in another dating service, such as online dating, it doesn’t hurt to continue your own searches.  Be social and practice increasing your love awareness.   Practice the mindset of dating with intention. These activities will help you and your matchmaker.

When you meet Mr. or Ms. Right, you will be ready for the match!

Thank You for Your Feedback

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“Your vision to create the opportunity for love is honorable and greatly needed.” MW

“Thank you so much for providing this service.  It’s very important.” KS

“I enjoy the images of your site the most–I love it!” LN

“When I researched matchmaking, I was excited that African American Matchmaking exists.  There is such a need.” LJ

Our National Registry

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First, you must GET STARTED to apply for African American Matchmaking membership. When you become a member of African American Matchmaking, you join African American Matchmaking’s national registry.  This means we can match you with eligible men and women.  Your information is confidential and nothing is shared with the public.

Unlike matchmaking shows on television, matchmaking is not instantaneous–it may take SEVERAL weeks, even months, for you to be matched.  The impatient need not apply!

If you are ready to start the process of finding your match, GET STARTED!

Love in Love City

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African American Matchmaking serves the entire United States, including the territories of Hawaii, Alaska, U.S. Virgin Islands, and Puerto Rico.  Our administrative offices are based in St. John, U.S. Virgin Islands.  Known as an island of romance, St. John aka Love City, was appropriately nicknamed based on its unspoiled natural beauty.

Would you like to visit us in St. John, this amazing lover’s paradise?  Please take the African American Matchmaking poll and share it with friends!

Matchmaking Call for Bachelors

Updated July 15, 2013

A matchmaking call is like a casting call, but instead of inviting people to cast in a movie, play, or television show, African American Matchmaking invites people to match with our current African American Matchmaking members.

If you are an African American bachelor and fit one of these matching calls or know someone who does, let us know:  African American Matchmaking may match you for FREE!  At African American Matchmaking, we have your match!

Age: 33-40
Height: 6′ and up
Weight:  all weights

Age: 30-45
Height: 5′ 6″ and up
Weight:  all weights

Age: 38-55
Height: 5′ 9″ and up
Weight:  all weights

Age: 32-45
Height: 5′ 9″ and up
Weight:  all weights

Age: 38-48
Height: 5′ 11″ and up
Weight:  all weights

Age: 36-55
Height: 5′ 5″ and up
Weight:  all weights

Age: 44-55
Height: 5′ 7″ and up
Weight:  all weights

Age: 37-52
Height: 5′ 7″ and up
Weight:  all weights

Matchmaking Call for Bachelorettes

Updated July 15, 2013


A matchmaking call is like a casting call, but instead of inviting people to cast in a movie, play, or television show, African American Matchmaking invites people to match with our current African American Matchmaking members.

If you are an African American bachelorette and fit one of these matching calls or know someone who does, let us know:   African American Matchmaking may match you for FREE!  At African American Matchmaking, we have your match!

Age: 28-38
Height: 5’4″-5′ 9″
Weight:  up to 160 lbs.