New Site for African American Matchmaking

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Making so much progress… we can’t stop! We listened to your needs and feedback as African American Matchmaking members and those concerned about the state of Black love. As a result, we have been working diligently on a new site that responds to YOU and your matchmaking desires. We have developed other aspects of the site to focus on making your matchmaking process as smooth and easy as possible.  After next week, blog posts to increase love awareness will be located here:  http://africanamericanmatchmaking/blog/. Current subscribers will continue to receive posts.

THIS IS BRAND NEW.  Receiving online matchmaking services is as easy as 1-2-3:

  1. Register.  Create an account and profile.  Once approved, you will receive an email with login information.
  2. Choose your membership level.  The most popular plan gives you 30 days of matchmaking services free.
  3. Activate your membership. That’s it!

You will then have access to the select group of African American Matchmaking members looking for the same thing you are looking for.  A unique matchmaking algorithm will provide match ratings for each potential match and I am there to guide your journey. In addition to other online groups that you can create and join as a member, I monitor your progress, make recommendations, and host a members-only forum where I respond to your most pressing concerns.  Technical support for the site is also available.

African American Matchmaking is private, selective, effective and empowering. Can you tell that I am excited? Great, let’s get started.

P.S.  If you have already submitted information to us, we will contact you regarding the status of your membership.

Warm Regards,
Angela D. Coleman
African American Matchmaker

“No Matter How Long the Night, the Day is Sure to Come.” African Proverb

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WE NEED MORE LOVE IN OUR COMMUNITIES.
The Goal of African American Matchmaking:  To Help You Find a Loving Relationship!

African American Matchmaking is a company that promotes Black Love:
Advice, Inspiration and Matchmaking Services

Online Dater Bias Against Black Women

Sister Breaking OutStudies show Black women are the least desired group on online dating sites. HOW CAN THAT BE?

For those Black women who’ve tried their hand at finding love online, the results may not be all that surprising. But the racial breakdown of desirability is certainly intriguing.

Buzzfeed produced a video to explain the findings of the many studies on racial preferences in online dating:

Advice from African American Matchmaking: 
Break out from the the mold of expectations, assimilation, wanna-be behavior, doubt, and insecurity by being yourself.

Keep the faith and keep Black love alive by doing something different, not just online dating.

We know that Black women are desirable and have been for centuries.  Don’t allow dominant culture beauty standards confuse you with erroneous social comparisons and avoid over-reliance on technology when dating.

Know your worth and find a partner who does, too.

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“Ask for what you want and be prepared to get it!” Maya Angelou

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WE NEED MORE LOVE IN OUR COMMUNITIES.
The Goal of African American Matchmaking:  To Help You Find a Loving Relationship!

African American Matchmaking is a company that promotes Black Love:
Advice, Inspiration and Matchmaking Services

What Happened to Courtship?

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Courtship is being redefined.  Is it for the better?

Young 20-somethings “hang out,” opting for group socializing over personal one-on-one encounters and often engage in casual “hook-up” sex.  Texting, e-mail, Twitter or other forms of “asynchronous communication” have replaced more personal introductions. According to a recent New York Times article about courtship today:

“In the context of dating, it removes much of the need for charm; it’s more like dropping a line in the water and hoping for a nibble.”

“We’re all Ph.D.’s in Internet stalking these days,” said Andrea Lavinthal, an author of the 2005 book “The Hookup Handbook.” “Online research makes the first date feel unnecessary, because it creates a false sense of intimacy. You think you know all the important stuff, when in reality, all you know is that they watch ‘Homeland.’ ”

According to the article:

“Online dating services, which have gained mainstream acceptance, reinforce the hyper-casual approach by greatly expanding the number of potential dates. Faced with a never-ending stream of singles to choose from, many feel a sense of “FOMO” (fear of missing out), so they opt for a speed-dating approach — cycle through lots of suitors quickly.

That also means that suitors need to keep dates cheap and casual. A fancy dinner? You’re lucky to get a drink.”

Also cited in the article are the changing economic power dynamic between the genders. This means that younger generations are expecting and accepting something very different in their relationships, much different from previous generations.  Witnessing the divorce rates of their parents, reliance on technological communications, and more casual encounters…   Does this help them find a match or hurt them?  What do you think?

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Your Mate is Your Match

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We can use the words “mate,” “match,” and “partner”
interchangeably because they are all THE ONE.

Creative Visualization

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Are you using creative visualization to your full benefit?  In Black Girls Guide: How to Find & Choose the Right Man, I write about its importance for finding a great relationship.   What loving relationship do you see in your future?

In the inspirational bestseller, Creative Visualization, author Shakti Gawain, explains that creative visualization is the technique of using your natural imagination to create what you want in your life. Our imagination, “the basic creative energy of the Universe” works whether we are aware of it or not. This ancient knowledge is the foundation of what people are now calling “The Secret” and “The Law of Attraction.”

To imagine, we must use information that is available to us, and then expand it. To imagine love is to increase our love awareness.

To be loving, we need to know what love is. Once we are able to identify it, we need to make it a constant in our lives. We need to really understand what it looks like, smells like, tastes like, and feels like.

READ MORE:  LOOK INSIDE THE BOOK

What You Can Do: 

  • Nighttime is a particularly effective time for creative visualization.
  • Be as specific as you can to get what you really want.