Your Body Language

Young Couple

Body language is a love language.  Sometimes we show more with our nonverbal communication than with words.  What is your body language saying about you?

Crossed arms=defensive, resistant

Eye contact=I am interested in what you have to say

Touching feet=flirtatious, friendly

Fast foot- or finger-tapping=nervousness, impatience

Leaning away=aversion, not wanting to participate

Side glances=distrust and suspicion

Smiling=happiness and joy


Couple Praying Together

Commitment is caring deeply about something or someone.  It is deciding carefully what you want to do, then giving 100%, holding nothing back.  You give your all to friendship, a task, or something you believe in.  You finish what you start.  You keep your promises.

You are practicing commitment when you:

*  Think before you make a promise

*  Keep every agreement you make

*  Make decisions confidently

*  Go the extra mile

*  Give 100% to everything you do

*  Are faithful to people you care about

Affirmation:  I commit to my decisions. I keep my agreements. I give my all. I am a faithful friend.

Virtues Project

Anthony & Cori

Anthony & Cori
“There is something special about my girl, and the fact that she loves me back the same way I love her is proof that true love can be found in places that you least expect it.”

Anthony tells ESSENCE about the love of his life, Cori. The pair married last fall in their hometown of Raleigh, North Carolina.

Benefits of Membership


Based on your registration information, African American Matchmaking will invite you to apply for membership ONLY IF we believe we can match you with a loving partner.   African American Matchmaking is an exclusive matchmaking service that has the right to not approve your application or request at any time for any reason.

Benefits of African American Matchmaking membership include:

  • Inclusion in our national registry
  • Background check
  • Personal matchmaking services
  • Extensive interview, assessment and review
  • Date preparation
  • Relationship coaching
  • Advice

Maya Angelou Says


On OWN’s Oprah Lifeclass series, Maya Angelou says:

“Love liberates…. Love saves me. And is here to save us all….  The love of one person can heal the wounds left by society.  It can raise the dead.  And make a mountain move.”

Sex & Fitness

Feet and Scale


More motivation to get fit; 83% of people who are unhappy with their sex life also say that they are too heavy.

Source:  The Normal Bar


Muslim Prom

Courage is bravery in the face of fear.  You do the right thing even when it is hard or scary.  When you are courageous, you don’t give up.  You try new things.  You admit your mistakes.  Courage is the strength in your heart.

You are practicing courage when you:

*   Stay strong even when you are afraid

*   Are willing to try new things

*   Admit mistakes and learn from them

*   Make amends when you do something wrong

*   Do what is right for you even when it is hard

*   Ask for help when you need it

Affirmation:  I have courage.  I listen to my heart.  I face my fears and am willing to try new things.  I have the courage to do the right thing.

Virtues Project

Source:  The Virtues Project and The Family Connection, U.S. Virgin Islands

John Holt – A Love I Can Feel

3000 volts of holt

Love I can feel.
Love I can feel.
Love I can feel, yeah.

I want a love I can feel;
That’s the only kind of love, I think is real.
Don’t want you be going by, something I heard,
‘Cause baby action, speak louder than words.

I want a love that is mine,
In the rain it’s always, sun, sun, sun, sunshine.
A love that keep me warm, when it’s cold,
That kind of loving, that will never grow old.

Don’t you know I wanna love?
Don’t you know I wanna love?
Don’t you know I wanna love?

Don’t you know I wanna love?
I want a love that I can feel;
That kind of loving you could give to me.
That kind of the kisses that will make me mad.
That kind of loving, that will really be fair.

Don’t you know I wanna love?
Don’t you know I wanna love?
Don’t you know I wanna love?
Don’t you know I wanna love?

I want a love I can feel;
That’s the only kind of love, I think is real.
Don’t want you be going by, something I heard,
‘Cause baby action, speak louder than words.

Don’t you know I wanna love?
Oh, yes I do.
Don’t you know I wanna love?
Ooh, yes I do.

Don’t Stop-Keep Going

Couple with View

Even when you have a matchmaker working on your behalf to find a loving partner, don’t stop doing your work.  A matchmaker works WITH you, not INSTEAD of you.

There are many things that you can do while  your matchmaker does his/her job.  Get ready for love.  If you feel better with less weight, go ahead and start losing the weight. Start or continue your self-development activities.  Also, if you are registered in another dating service, such as online dating, it doesn’t hurt to continue your own searches.  Be social and practice increasing your love awareness.   Practice the mindset of dating with intention. These activities will help you and your matchmaker.

When you meet Mr. or Ms. Right, you will be ready for the match!

Thank You for Your Feedback

Couple in love

“Your vision to create the opportunity for love is honorable and greatly needed.” MW

“Thank you so much for providing this service.  It’s very important.” KS

“I enjoy the images of your site the most–I love it!” LN

“When I researched matchmaking, I was excited that African American Matchmaking exists.  There is such a need.” LJ

Our National Registry

Beautiful Black Couple Smilling

First, you must GET STARTED to apply for African American Matchmaking membership. When you become a member of African American Matchmaking, you join African American Matchmaking’s national registry.  This means we can match you with eligible men and women.  Your information is confidential and nothing is shared with the public.

Unlike matchmaking shows on television, matchmaking is not instantaneous–it may take SEVERAL weeks, even months, for you to be matched.  The impatient need not apply!

If you are ready to start the process of finding your match, GET STARTED!


Man Kissing Woman

Integrity is  living by your highest values.  It is being honest and sincere.  Integrity helps you listen to your conscience, to do the right thing, and to tell the truth.  You act with integrity when your words and actions match.  Integrity gives  you self-respect and a  peaceful heart.

You are practicing integrity when you:

*  Think about what virtues matter to you

*  Stand up for what you believe in

*  Do the right thing, even when it is difficult

*  Willingly clean up your mistakes

*  Think for yourself and avoid temptation

Affirmation:  I have integrity. I stand up for what is right. I mean what I say and say what I mean.

Virtues Project Source:

5 Do’s & Don’ts: Facebook Dating Etiquette

Brother on computerFacebookaholics

It looks like Facebook is going to get into the dating business.  Maybe before that occurs, a class should be given regarding Facebook etiquette and dating.  So many problems could be avoided!  Etiquette is defined as socially appropriate behavior.  Here are a few Do’s & Don’ts for using Facebook to date:

  1. DO choose your “friends” carefully.  Once you become friends with someone, you let them into your virtual world.
  2. DO be honest about who you are, but guard  your private information.
  3. DO unfriend your ex(es) if you are going to use Facebook for dating.
  4. DON’T change your Facebook status until you feel very secure in  the long-term status of your relationship.
  5. DON’T break up on Facebook!

Love in Love City

STJ Couple Beach

African American Matchmaking serves the entire United States, including the territories of Hawaii, Alaska, U.S. Virgin Islands, and Puerto Rico.  Our administrative offices are based in St. John, U.S. Virgin Islands.  Known as an island of romance, St. John aka Love City, was appropriately nicknamed based on its unspoiled natural beauty.

Would you like to visit us in St. John, this amazing lover’s paradise?  Please take the African American Matchmaking poll and share it with friends!

10 Scents of Love

black-couple-in-love Rose

Use these natural scents creatively on your body, in your home, or anywhere you want to increase love awareness and sensual pleasures.

Men Want Peace

Black Man

“A man wants peace in his house and in his relationships. Intimacy is important, too. However without peace, intimacy becomes a challenge and that is when the man’s mind and eyes start to wander. In the spirit of keeping it real, if a woman of any age desires to have and build a relationship with a good man, be prepared to listen and hear/see/feel/ your man. Once you commit to doing that, a good (and intelligent) man will do all that he can to fulfill all of your needs and desires. It’s really that simple.”
Harold “Heru” Williams

Get High on Love

Couple on Grass

Being in love gives us a natural high.  It has now been confirmed that being in love relieves pain in a way that is as powerful as morphine.  In a recent Stanford University study, 15 study participants were asked to hold a temperature probe while looking at a picture of their lovers.  The participants who looked at someone they were in love with had a 45% reduction in their perception of moderate pain and a 12% reduction in their feeling of severe pain.

Romance 101

Keith Hammond            Romance 101

Keith Hammond’s book, Romance 101:  Class is in Session, is dedicated to “the women who want to know their men” and to “the men who need to know their women.”  On page 89, he suggests creating a Romance List, a list of the romantic things you want your mate to do to please you, likely the things that were common in the courtship phase of the relationship.  According to Hammond, these are learned behaviors that can and should be taught and reinforced. The Romance List includes the following:

  • Cuddle With Me
  • Spoon With Me
  • Say I Love You
  • Take a Long Walk With Me
  • Open Doors For Me
  • Kiss Me Passionately
  • Hold My Hand
  • Make Me Laugh
  • Touch Me With Sensuality
  • Flirt With Me
  • Lick My Ears and E-Zones
  • Fix Me Hot Baths
  • Give Me Body & Scalp Massages
  • Tongue Only Sex Me
  • Communicate & Listen To Me
  • Candlelight Dine Me
  • Flowers, Cards, Gifts, Candy, Poetry
  • Weekend Getaways
  • Silently Stare Deeply into My Eyes
  • Dance Lessons
  • Take Classes and Learn Together

Now, add your own!

Technology Etiquette for Dating: 5 Rules

Couple man with cell phone

It’s easy:  just remember the Golden Rule of doing unto others as you would like them to do unto you.  When you are dating and getting to know someone better, these simple rules will be helpful.  Remember, you only get one chance to make a first impression.  And technology is no substitute for human companionship.  Cherish each other and respect each other’s time.

  1. Do not use your cell phone when driving.  Pull over to make or receive calls or messages.
  2. Call or text as soon as you find out you are running late and make sure it includes an apology and the approximate time you will arrive.
  3. When you are out on a date with someone special, don’t use your cell phone to play games, engage in social media activities, or check email.
  4. Don’t answer your cell phone when you are out on a date with someone special (unless it is your babysitter or child calling-then, be brief and explain the interruption).
  5. If you use your camera phone to take pictures, make sure you include the person that you are with in the pictures.

Pet Peeves

Loving Bad Partner

Whether it’s your first date or the two of you have been together for awhile, make sure you don’t do any of these activities, which some of our African American Matchmaking members have listed as their pet peeves–extremely annoying and irritating behavior that they can’t stand:

  • Smoking
  • Bad breath
  • Arrogance
  • Inappropriate dress
  • Nail-biting
  • Being mean
  • Being rude
  • Long fingernails
  • Using words when you don’t know what they mean
  • Trying to finish my story for me or guess what I am trying to say
  • Bad odor/poor hygiene
  • Lack of confidence
  • Lack of grooming/looking sloppy
  • Using poor grammar
  • Not doing what you say you are going to do
  • Not listening
  • Heavy drinking
  • Poor table manners

10 Love Foods

fresh honey with honeycomb, spices and fruits

Eating is necessary to live, but some of us live to eat! What foods can increase your love awareness?

  1. Raw honey
  2. Chocolate
  3. Watermelon
  4. Pomegranates
  5. Vanilla
  6. Figs
  7. Avocado
  8. Chili peppers
  9. Bananas
  10. Oysters


Matchmaking Call for Bachelors

Updated July 15, 2013

A matchmaking call is like a casting call, but instead of inviting people to cast in a movie, play, or television show, African American Matchmaking invites people to match with our current African American Matchmaking members.

If you are an African American bachelor and fit one of these matching calls or know someone who does, let us know:  African American Matchmaking may match you for FREE!  At African American Matchmaking, we have your match!

Age: 33-40
Height: 6′ and up
Weight:  all weights

Age: 30-45
Height: 5′ 6″ and up
Weight:  all weights

Age: 38-55
Height: 5′ 9″ and up
Weight:  all weights

Age: 32-45
Height: 5′ 9″ and up
Weight:  all weights

Age: 38-48
Height: 5′ 11″ and up
Weight:  all weights

Age: 36-55
Height: 5′ 5″ and up
Weight:  all weights

Age: 44-55
Height: 5′ 7″ and up
Weight:  all weights

Age: 37-52
Height: 5′ 7″ and up
Weight:  all weights

Matchmaking Call for Bachelorettes

Updated July 15, 2013


A matchmaking call is like a casting call, but instead of inviting people to cast in a movie, play, or television show, African American Matchmaking invites people to match with our current African American Matchmaking members.

If you are an African American bachelorette and fit one of these matching calls or know someone who does, let us know:   African American Matchmaking may match you for FREE!  At African American Matchmaking, we have your match!

Age: 28-38
Height: 5’4″-5′ 9″
Weight:  up to 160 lbs.