Lovely Lingerie

Lingerie

“The sad truth is I can go weeks at a time without coming across
a nice photo of a woman of color in lingerie.”
Cora Harrington, a.k.a. Treacle Tart, cross-posted from The Lingerie Addict.

Most of us are stimulated when we see something that appeals to us.
African Americans wear lingerie, too!  Do you?

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“No Matter How Long the Night, the Day is Sure to Come.” African Proverb

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WE NEED MORE LOVE IN OUR COMMUNITIES.
The Goal of African American Matchmaking:  To Help You Find a Loving Relationship!

African American Matchmaking is a company that promotes Black Love:
Advice, Inspiration and Matchmaking Services

Are You Attracted to Unavailable People?

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In The Ecstasy of Surrender: 12 Surprising Ways Letting Go Can Empower Your Life,  author Judith Orloff, M.D. devoted a chapter to letting go of any patterns that keep you from loving.  In her own words:

One of these patterns in being drawn to unavailable, commitment phobic people. It’s important to be very clear about what constitutes an unavailable person so you won’t be fooled by their charm or potential.

12 SIGNS YOU’RE ATTRACTED TO  

EMOTIONALLY UNAVAILABLE PEOPLE (EUP) 

Here are some red flags to watch for. Even one sign warns you to be careful. The more that are present, the more danger exists.

  • They are married or in a relationship with someone else

  • They can’t commit to you or have feared commitment in past relationships

  • They have one foot on the gas pedal, one foot on the break

  • They are emotionally distant, shut down, or can’t deal with conflict

  • They’re mainly interested in sex, not relating emotionally or spiritually

  • They are practicing alcoholics, sex addicts, or substance abusers

  • They prefer long distance relationships, emails, texting, or don’t introduce you to their friends and family

  • They are elusive, sneaky, frequently working or tired, and may disappear for periods

  • They are seductive with you but make empty promises–their behavior and words don’t match

  • They send mixed messages, flirt with others, or don’t give a straight answer–you’re always trying to “de-code” what they really mean

  • They’re narcissistic, only consider themselves, not your needs

  • They throw you emotional crumbs or enticing hints of their potential to be loving, then withdraw

    Does any of these sound familiar?

Take a Risk

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Good things come to those who risk, who step outside the norm and who allow themselves to be vulnerable.  Do something different to get a different outcome.  When nothing is ventured, nothing is gained.  Try it today!

Online Dater Bias Against Black Women

Sister Breaking OutStudies show Black women are the least desired group on online dating sites. HOW CAN THAT BE?

For those Black women who’ve tried their hand at finding love online, the results may not be all that surprising. But the racial breakdown of desirability is certainly intriguing.

Buzzfeed produced a video to explain the findings of the many studies on racial preferences in online dating:

Advice from African American Matchmaking: 
Break out from the the mold of expectations, assimilation, wanna-be behavior, doubt, and insecurity by being yourself.

Keep the faith and keep Black love alive by doing something different, not just online dating.

We know that Black women are desirable and have been for centuries.  Don’t allow dominant culture beauty standards confuse you with erroneous social comparisons and avoid over-reliance on technology when dating.

Know your worth and find a partner who does, too.

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Being Fabulous in Your 50’s

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In her new feature photo shoot for the beauty and fashion magazine Violet Grey, actress and director Angela Bassett goes bold in sexy black lingerie and talks about what it takes to be a woman of strength, but she also talks about her most vulnerable times:

V.G.: WHO MAKES A GOOD DATE TO AN EVENT?
A.B.: A friend or a sister. I mean, the husband is always great, but there is something about a girlfriend…

V.G.: WHAT DO YOU SEE WHEN YOU LOOK IN THE MIRROR?
A.B.: A passionate woman who knows what she loves and has been blessed to be able to do it…and continue to do it!

V.G.: WHAT IS YOUR GREATEST WEAKNESS?
A.B.: Love…and sugar.

V.G.: WHEN DO YOU FEEL THE MOST VULNERABLE?
A.B.: When I’m told I can’t do something. When I’m told I’m not good enough, that I can’t have something, can’t go somewhere, especially because of the color of my skin.

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Married Couples Hide Big Secrets

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Hiding secrets from your spouse is never a good idea and the foundation of a healthy relationship is trust.  The truth will almost always reveal itself eventually.  But that doesn’t stop people from trying!

*Whoa! According to one new study, 25-percent of married couples say that they hid (and are still hiding) something pretty major from their spouse. And 42-percent say they doubt they will get caught.

What is this costly secret that could potentially be a marriage deal-breaker? The study says it ranges anywhere from money troubles to infidelity to (gulp!) a pornography obsession.

And yes, these secrets have (and do!) cause the bearers many sleepless nights.

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