Trustworthiness

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Trustworthiness is being worthy of trust.  People can count on you to do your best, to keep your word, and to follow through on your commitments.  You do what you say you will do.  Trustworthiness is a key to success in anything you do.

You are practicing trustworthiness when you …

* Think before you  make a promise to be sure you can do it.

*  Take responsibility for remembering your commitments.

*  Keep your promises even when they become hard to do.

*  Abide by the rules even when no one is watching.

*  Let nothing stop you from keeping your word.

*  Do your best and finish what you start.

Affirmation:  I am trustworthy.  I keep my word.  I am worthy of the trust others place in me.

Source:  The Virtues Project and The Family Connection, U.S. Virgin Islands

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We Need More Love in Our Communities: 10 Reasons

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  1. Love helps us heal.
  2. Love relieves stress.
  3. Love lowers your blood pressure.
  4. Love helps you be more giving to others.
  5. Giving love helps you receive love.
  6. Love boosts immunity to disease.
  7. Love cures love deprivation.
  8. Love boosts confidence and self-esteem.
  9. Love increases quality of life.
  10. Love helps you live longer.

Add your own reasons with your comments below:

Overcoming Daddy’s Dysfunction: 7 Tips

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Many of us have fathers who were simply not there in our lives.  We grew up with them physically outside of the home and/or mentally and emotionally unavailable.  This void has affected the way we respond to the opposite sex in our adult romantic relationships.

As adults, we have to let go and move on, recognizing our loss but not dwelling on it.  Specifically, here is what you can do:

  1. Know that you are not alone.
  2. See lack of fatherhood experiences are part of a systematic problem in American society, not just a problem in your family.  Your father was probably parented the same way.
  3. Recognize the way that slavery experiences affected the functioning (or lack of) of Black family units.
  4. Understand that our parents are imperfect human beings who often did the best that they can under stressful circumstances.
  5. Know what your needs are due to your experience of fatherlessness.  Are they reasonable?  Can you find what you need?
  6.  Be specific about your needs when you visualize your ideal partner, a man or woman who can naturally and effortlessly fulfill them.
  7. If your issues are still unresolved, find support.  If needed, seek professional help from a counselor or therapist.

The Art of Kissing: 5 Tips

Is kissing a lost art?  Common in the courtship phase of dating, kissing helps you bond with your mate and has long been seen as a warm-up activity for sexual intercourse.  Women enjoy kissing more than men, right?

Not true! Researchers from The Kinsey Institute in Bloomington, Indiana were surprised to find that kissing, cuddling and caressing are more important to men than they are to women.

A good relationship is the best foundation for a good kiss. Sharing personal space, physical closeness, connection…   Good kissing can make it happen for both of you.

5 Tips on What to Do:

1. Have loving feelings toward the person you kiss. 
Hint:  if you don’t have loving feelings, don’t kiss!

2. Have fresh breath. 
Hint:  brush your teeth, use mouthwash, use breath mints, chew peppermint or spearmint gum.

3. Make sure your lips are soft.
Hint:  licking your lips does not make them soft.  Use a lip moisterizer.

4. Relax your lips as your lips prepare to meet his/hers. 
Hint:  lips should be parted slightly, not open.

5. Let your lips touch softly to meet your partner’s lips, gently at first, then take it from there.
Hint:  Pay attention to what your partner responds to and keep it hot!

How Being Picky Can Leave You Lonely

Some of us are so particular (yes, picky!) about whom we date and spend quality time with. Of course, we should be.  No one should settle. But when is being picky just too much?

When being picky interferes with our ability to find dates and committed, long-lasting partners, it can lead to frustration, loneliness and resentment.  Maybe we have to re-examine our priorities by asking ourselves, “Are you setting yourself up to be lonely by having impossibly perfect standards for your dream partner?”

Psychologist Jeremy S. Nicholson believes:

“Put simply, trying to find the absolute ‘best’ in love is an impossible task. There are simply too many people. No matter how much information and experience you obtain, there will always be somebody ‘better’ on some level out there. So, people spend their lives looking for that perfect someone, never find them…”

We know that no one is perfect, not even you! Instead of trying to find a perfect partner, maybe you can focus on finding a satisfying partner who is PERFECT FOR YOU.

A matchmaker can help.  Why Use a Matchmaker?  5 Good Reasons

I Want to Know What Love Is

I Want To Know What Love Is

                     Foreigner                      

Songwriters: PARKS, ALEX / TZUKE, JUDIE / KEARNS, GRAHAM PATRICK

I gotta take a little time
A little time to think things over
I better read between the lines
In case I need it when I’m older
Aaaah woah-ah-aah

Now this mountain I must climb
Feels like a world upon my shoulders
And through the clouds I see love shine
It keeps me warm as life grows colder

In my life there’s been heartache and pain
I don’t know if I can face it again
Can’t stop now, I’ve traveled so far
To change this lonely life

I wanna know what love is
I want you to show me
I wanna feel what love is
I know you can show me
Aaaah woah-oh-ooh

I’m gonna take a little time
A little time to look around me, oooh ooh-ooh ooh-ooh oooh
I’ve got nowhere left to hide
It looks like love has finally found me

In my life there’s been heartache and pain
I don’t know if I can face it again
I can’t stop now, I’ve traveled so far
To change this lonely life

I wanna know what love is
I want you to show me
I wanna feel what love is
I know you can show me
I wanna know what love is
I want you to show me
And I wanna feel, I want to feel what love is
And I know, I know you can show me

Let’s talk about love
(I wanna know what love is) the love that you feel inside
(I want you to show me) I’m feeling so much love
(I wanna feel what love is) no, you just cannot hide
(I know you can show me) yeah, woah-oh-ooh
I wanna know what love is, let’s talk about love
(I want you to show me) I wanna feel it too
(I wanna feel what love is) I wanna feel it too
And I know, and I know, I know you can show me
Show me what is real, woah (woah), yeah I know
(I wanna know what love is) hey I wanna know what love
(I want you to show me), I wanna know, I wanna know, want know
(I wanna feel what love is), hey I wanna feel, love
I know you can show me, yeah

A Satisfying Partner

Are you still looking for that perfect someone?  What makes a partner “satisfying” vs. “perfect?”

Psychologist Jeremy S. Nicholson believes:

“Having a satisfying relationship doesn’t require finding the perfect partner. All it takes is using the right strategy to choose a good one. That starts with deciding on the few, specific things that you really need a partner to possess. Look for those features and be happy with the first person who has them all. Don’t become a perfectionist looking for better. Don’t worry about what your friends have. Just enjoy the fact that you have somebody who has what you need to be satisfied – and ignore the rest.”

Source:  http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201209/maximize-your-chances-picking-satisfying-partner