Five Signs You Need Relationship & Love Rehab


by , Reposted in abbreviated form from Single Black Male:

I was scanning the headlines a couple weeks back and I saw a few famous celebs were heading to rehab, albeit for more than the first time. I thought that the relationship most have with addiction is a lot like those who struggle to move past their last relationship or have flawed views on relationships. There are many of us who need to go away for a while, get away and have someone or something help move us past that hurt or that urge to do wrong. If that is the case, rehab may be the solution worth exploring. Again, love is a lot like addiction. It’s something you have a downward spiral into, you need more and more of it as the use goes on, and getting over it will be life-changing.

After I came to the conclusion that there may be a need for Love Rehab for people, I needed to figure out a way to explain the symptoms or signs that a person should be seeking out Love Rehab. I can’t list every possible reason I was able to brainstorm but I can list these five and I’m sure every other one is just an iteration of these five.

1. You’re taking it out on all the new people.
2. You still leave open the chance you might get back with an ex.
3. You haven’t accepted why the last relationship didn’t work.
4. You believe in emotional unavailability.
5. At your happiest moments, you still want to share it with your ex.

If you read this and you’re like, “Oh my God, that is so me!” that’s completely normal because for the most part it’s all of us. That’s also why rehab isn’t some set amount of time, it can be 30 days, 60 days, 90 days, or hell sometimes people need 26 weeks to shake the habit. Whatever it is, it’s only important that you’re making a conscious effort to get over it. If that means you spend some time in rehab, you do it, if you think you can handle it on your own, try it.

Just don’t get mad when you get dragged into rehab kicking and screaming by your family and closest friends.

Read the entire article here on Single Black Male

What Happened to Courtship?


Courtship is being redefined.  Is it for the better?

Young 20-somethings “hang out,” opting for group socializing over personal one-on-one encounters and often engage in casual “hook-up” sex.  Texting, e-mail, Twitter or other forms of “asynchronous communication” have replaced more personal introductions. According to a recent New York Times article about courtship today:

“In the context of dating, it removes much of the need for charm; it’s more like dropping a line in the water and hoping for a nibble.”

“We’re all Ph.D.’s in Internet stalking these days,” said Andrea Lavinthal, an author of the 2005 book “The Hookup Handbook.” “Online research makes the first date feel unnecessary, because it creates a false sense of intimacy. You think you know all the important stuff, when in reality, all you know is that they watch ‘Homeland.’ ”

According to the article:

“Online dating services, which have gained mainstream acceptance, reinforce the hyper-casual approach by greatly expanding the number of potential dates. Faced with a never-ending stream of singles to choose from, many feel a sense of “FOMO” (fear of missing out), so they opt for a speed-dating approach — cycle through lots of suitors quickly.

That also means that suitors need to keep dates cheap and casual. A fancy dinner? You’re lucky to get a drink.”

Also cited in the article are the changing economic power dynamic between the genders. This means that younger generations are expecting and accepting something very different in their relationships, much different from previous generations.  Witnessing the divorce rates of their parents, reliance on technological communications, and more casual encounters…   Does this help them find a match or hurt them?  What do you think?


National Fatherhood & Family Conference

African Heritage

The Fathers & Family Coalition of America will be hosting its 15th Annual National Conference, February 11-14, 2014 at The Westin Lake Las Vegas Resort & Spa in Henderson, NV.  Conference activities include:

  1. Fatherlessness: An American Epidemic to be featured documentary film.
  2. Fatherhood Practitioners & Healthy Relationship Educator Certificate Program.
  3. NEW: SEVEN COUPLES OF EXCELLENCE: The Coalition is committed to highlight strengthening families and seven (7) couples nationally who have been married for twenty (20) years or more.  Send nominations to the local FFCA Affiliate and winners will be selected to receive complimentary two night stay at the Westin Lake Las Vegas Spa & Resort-recognized at our gala-documentary of their secrets to success for a national release, plus a Special Renewal of Vows on the closing day overlooking Lake Las Vegas.  Nominate someone today by accessing our Fathers and Families Coalition of America App on iTunes or Google Play stores.  For more information on how to nominate a couple please contact Ms. Lisa Page at 404-405-5745 or by email at