I Ain’t Movin’

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I Ain’t Movin’
Performed by Des’ree

Love is my passion, love is my friend
Love’s universal, love never ends
Then why am I faced with so much anger, so my pain?
Why should I hide? Why should I be ashamed?
Time’s much too short to be livin’, somebody else’s life
I walk with dignity, I step with pride
‘Cause I ain’t moving from my face, from my race, from my history
I ain’t movin’ from my love, my peaceful dove, means too much to me
And loving self can be so hard, honesty can be demanding
Learn to love yourself it’s a great, great feeling
When you’re down baby, I will set you free
I will be your remedy, I will be your tree
A wise man is clever, seldom ever speaks a word
A foolish man keeps talking, never is he heard, no no no no
Time’s much too short to be livin’, somebody else’s life
I walk with dignity, I step with pride
‘Cause I ain’t moving from my face, from my race, from my history
I ain’t movin’ from my love, my peaceful dove, means too much to me
And loving self can be so hard, honesty can be demanding
Learn to love yourself it’s a great, great feeling
Time’s too lonely, too lonely without words
Future voices need to be heard
Eyebrows are always older than the beards
Momma said be brave, you’ve nothing to fear and I, ooh
Time’s much too short to be livin’, somebody else’s life
I walk with dignity, I step with pride
‘Cause I ain’t moving from my face, from my race, from my history
I ain’t movin’ from my love, my peaceful dove, means too much to me
And loving self can be so hard, honesty can be demanding
Learn to love yourself it’s a great, great feeling
‘Cause I ain’t moving from my face, from my race, from my history
I ain’t movin’ from my love, my peaceful dove, means too much to me
And loving self can be so hard, honesty can be demanding
If we learn to love ourself we’ll have great, great feeling
‘Cause I ain’t movin’, I’ve been here long before
I ain’t movin’ ’cause I want more
I ain’t movin’, got my feet on the ground, hey
As far as I’m concerned, love should win the rounds, oh yeah

Be Happy

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Be Happy
Performed by Mary J. Blige

[Verse 1]

How can I love somebody else
If I can’t love myself enough to know
When it’s time,
Time to let go
Sing

[Chorus]
All I really want
is to be happy
And to find a love that’s mine
It would be so sweet

[Repeat]

[Verse 2]
I ask for the sign
From the sweet Lord above
I know the answer is in front of me
But when you think you’re in love
You only see what you wanna see

And all I see is me for you
And you for me
Oh I cannot hide the way I feel inside
(No I don’t know why)
I don’t know why but every day I wanna cry
(Every day I wanna cry)
If I give you one more try
To these rules, will you abide
And if I mean anything to you
Would it make everything all right

[Chorus]

I just wanna be so, so, happy
But the answer lies in me
I do believe
That we can be happy
I said I wanna be happy, yeah

[Verse 3]

Life is too short
To be tryin to play some games
Now take some time and think about
If it’s really worth losing me
Why must it be this way
Why do you have to play with my mind
All the time
Help me sing it
All I really want is for me to be happy
Ohhh, just help me sing it
All I really want is for me to be happy
Yeahhhhhhh
ll I really want is for me to be happy
Oh, you know I wanna be happy, yeah, yeah

[repeat through chorus]

I don’t wanna have to worry about nothin no more
Said I wanna be, said I wanna be, said I wanna be

[Chorus]

After the Argument: 5 Tips for Recovery

You and I are going to be ok

Too often, a disagreement becomes an argument as communication breaks down among couples and each tries (in their own way) to get their points across to the other. The irony is that the message itself is usually one that the other needs to hear.  Instead, in an argument, the message gets lost in its often dramatic, emotional translation, thus contributing to unsuccessful communication and resolution.   It’s okay!

Most communication breakdowns among loving couples can be fixed.  The key is recovery.  A couple can recover from an argument by going back, correcting what went wrong, and using the argument as a learning experience that makes the relationship better for the future.

This means that each of you has to be willing to:

  1. Take responsibility and acknowledge what YOU could have done better in your communication.
  2. Let go of your negative response when you didn’t get what you want from your partner.
  3. Communicate better by trying again and asking for what you need.
  4. Kiss and makeup with a renewed understanding of your partner and what s/he needs.
  5. File it in your memory bank to avoid repeating this behavior, thereby making it a poor communication pattern in your relationship.

Keep moving forward, don’t go backwards. When you embrace this opportunity for positive change, truly move on, and recover from an argument, you be able to minimize future conflicts in communication with your partner.