Trustworthiness

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Trustworthiness is being worthy of trust.  People can count on you to do your best, to keep your word, and to follow through on your commitments.  You do what you say you will do.  Trustworthiness is a key to success in anything you do.

You are practicing trustworthiness when you …

* Think before you  make a promise to be sure you can do it.

*  Take responsibility for remembering your commitments.

*  Keep your promises even when they become hard to do.

*  Abide by the rules even when no one is watching.

*  Let nothing stop you from keeping your word.

*  Do your best and finish what you start.

Affirmation:  I am trustworthy.  I keep my word.  I am worthy of the trust others place in me.

Source:  The Virtues Project and The Family Connection, U.S. Virgin Islands

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We Need More Love in Our Communities: 10 Reasons

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  1. Love helps us heal.
  2. Love relieves stress.
  3. Love lowers your blood pressure.
  4. Love helps you be more giving to others.
  5. Giving love helps you receive love.
  6. Love boosts immunity to disease.
  7. Love cures love deprivation.
  8. Love boosts confidence and self-esteem.
  9. Love increases quality of life.
  10. Love helps you live longer.

Add your own reasons with your comments below:

Does Denzel Have a Point?

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I am glad that Denzel Washington spoke about what needs to be spoken about.  As an advocate and supporter of the Boys & Girls Clubs of America, he is also playing his role as part of the solution.

However, I can’t join the bandwagon and engage in male-bashing!  There are also too many gossiping, phony, broke, nonproductive women out here, too. And let’s not forget:   it is the women who are accepting these “men.”

Universal law and cosmic science dictates that for every good man, there is a good woman and for every bad man, there is a bad woman.  Unfortunately, the negative ones (male and female) get the most attention. Let’s change that.  I like uplifting brothers who are doing well.

I am also all for re-programming, starting with self.  From there, we can share our knowledge with others.  When we develop ourselves and mentor our youth, our sisters and brothers learn what is means to be man and woman in today’s society.  We are teach them how to value and love themselves, their family and their communities.

Powerful Black Love

Barak and Michelle Obama

No matter what your political views, President Obama and First Lady Michelle Obama have given us a powerful vision of Black love unlike any other.

Many of us wonder about this seemingly perfect match, “How did they find each other?”  Most of us want the committed, healthy, loving relationship that they appear to have.

African American Matchmaking Manager, Angela D. Coleman, believes “the time is right for this vision to become a reality for more of us, to debunk the myths about Black relationships and increase our love awareness. Love is healing and we all need it. ”

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The 80/20 Theory

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We all know that we will not always get everything that we want in our partner.

TV One’s Love Addiction’s relationship expert Hasani Pettiford believes:

“Follow the 80/20 rule. If a guy has 80% of what your looking for, you must be flexible enough to work with the 20%.”

Do you agree?

Questions for a Matchmaker

AngelaDColeman2013African American Matchmaker,  Angela D. Coleman, answers your most pressing questions:

1. Do you guarantee that I will get X number of dates?
No one, not even a highly qualified and experienced matchmaker, can guarantee a satisfying relationship for you. So be wary of such claims because they are most likely disguised escort services or scams!  Some agencies guarantee you a certain number of introductions.  However, there is no guarantee about the quality of those interactions.

Your dating potential, ability to attract and maintain a relationship is primarily controlled by, guess who?  You!  However, with dating advice from African American Matchmaking, we can help you maximize your dating potential and “dateability.” 

But, let’s look at the big picture.  Dates are a means to an end.  As a goal itself, a date is short-term and with the wrong person, can be very uninspiring.  The goal of African American Matchmaking is to find you a loving partner, which is long-term, giving you an infinite number of superior dates for the rest of your life.

2. Are you married? If so, how long have you been married?
Love and marriage are mutually exclusive, which means one can, and often does, exist without the other.  Not everyone makes marriage an end goal and most people in the new millennium understand that years of marriage are not equated with happiness in either partner. 

Personally, I have consistently maintained loving, long-term, committed relationships throughout my adult life with periods of single life in-between; I have been engaged 3 times and married once.  I can identify with most African American Matchmaking members because I have experienced the highs and lows of relationships at various life stages:  I have been both happy and unsatisfied as a single, engaged, married, and divorced woman. Currently, I am happy in love with a wonderful man and have been for a while! *

Most of us have a learning curve when it comes to relationships and no one is perfect.  Everyone is different and a matchmaker’s responsibility is to find out what makes the client happy. The process is really about YOU, what you want and need.

3. What qualifies you and the other members of your team to take on matchmaking?
African American Matchmaking is new, but we are not new to the relationship business. Most of the matchmakers at African American Matchmaking have degrees in the social sciences and are highly experienced with consulting, counseling and assisting individuals and couples. 

For example, I have a degree in Psychology and African American Studies from Princeton University and Certification in African Holistic Medicine & Science, plus my Masters in Business Administration (MBA).  

With my extensive experience working with African American women and girls, I am an expert on current issues that impact them. What I hear most is a desire to be validated in a caring, loving relationship with a partner and the frustration that can result from failed attempts.  I have also heard similar frustrations from African American men.

A matchmaker helps you find love by providing personal matchmaking services to find someone who is compatible.  Matchmakers spend time and energy getting to know who you are and what you need.  They also help you to make good choices.  In addition, most matchmakers screen potential partners, provide dating and relationship advice to support your journey. 

Moving Forward
I love your questions!  President Obama and First Lady Michelle Obama have given us a powerful vision of Black love unlike any other.  We have to educate ourselves about matchmaking because matchmaking used to be reserved only for the very wealthy and elite. 

We ALL deserve love in our lives.  When you become a member of African American Matchmaking, we become your ally in love.

Feel free to contact us again to see if we can help you:  contact@africanamericanmatchmaking.com.  You can Get Started now!

*I am writing a book about my various experiences with love, so keep posted!